6 weeks pregnant, everyone & everything upsetting me!!

[CocoHoney]

Hi ladies, new girl here!

Hoping I'm posting in the right place..
Anyway.. Found out I was pregnant over a week ago, and I'm 6 weeks now! I will be a first time mother eeeek and I'm very happy about the pregnancy. Thing is.. Just about everything and everyone is upsetting me! I'm usually a strong woman (albeit quite socially anxious at times) and everything is just getting to me. Now, I understand my hormones have probably started kicking in and not helping the situation but I just want to cover myself up with a duvet and hide away from the world. I don't want to deal with anyone, see anyone, talk to anyone. I'm finding myself feeling even more anxious. I had a disagreement with a neighbour over something that wasn't even my fault (the bloody council!) and shouldn't of really been anything for me to think too much about but I just wanted to cry. Normally I would still be anxious with a confrontation but not to the point I wanted to cry and shut the door. I have these feelings of unsafeness (if that's even a word lol) and feeling like there's a pit in my stomach. Again I just want to hide in bed. I would love to be strong and enjoy this pregnancy without everything upsetting me. I had a previous miscarriage and just want to take it easy and not have people stress me out! I have a lovely partner who is very supportive but, I still can't shake these nervous, anxious, unsafe, vunerable, sensitive, alone feelings. Scared AF. Any comments would be greatly appreciated! xx

Congratulations on your pregnancy 

Each and every pregnancy is a unique experience.

There will be women whose experienced some of the feelings you have in one pregnancy then not in the next.

My advice - accept that it's an experience for which you have to "ride the wave" of emotions and hormones.

It's great you have a supportive partner and I'd encourage you to share how you are feeling.

For my part I didn't really "enjoy" pregnancy until the last trimester (sickness, hormones etc). I also didn't get an instinct to "nest" then either - but as I said each pregnancy is different.

Upshot is you're feelings of protectiveness etc are totally normal. Your hormones will settle, but based on my experience you may not be your "usual self" for the first or even second trimester.

@DeRigueurMortis Thank you for seeing this and replying so quickly. I didn't think anyone would. I guess I just need little reassurance from other women who are in/have been in the same boat. Any tips on how to not let things get to you so much in pregnancy? xx

I suppose it's hard to give tips - because as I said our experiences are unique.

My suggestions would be to find a calming routine you can engage with when you feel this way.

It could be making a cup of ginger and lemon tea in your nicest cup, then sitting in your favourite chair, listening to a piece of music you enjoy as you drink it. Might take 10/15 mins - but something comforting and centring.

See what I mean? So a way to find a tiny routine that brings you calm.

@DeRigueurMortis Thank you I will try that, I have just made myself a peppermint tea just now. Thanks for being kind and helpful.

You are very welcome 

I think we are "socialised" to feel that pregnancy is this all encompassing beautiful experience.

Truth is, it can be that for some women, but for most it's an emotional rollercoaster that we all get through as best we can.

Try and be kind to yourself and you're already ahead of the curve by posting, in the sense you have realisation that your behaviours/feelings are hormonally driven right now.

Enjoy your tea