Partner walked out- 38 weeks pregnant

[Tigerlilly09]

Hi everyone,

Didnt think I would find myself here but I don't have anyone to talk to so here goes;

My partner walked out on me yesterday after an argument, this is the second time he has done this to me, first time I came home from work to find his housekeys on the side and he had blocked me from contacting. Not really sure where to go from here, I'm so mad that he has walked out, he blames me and tells me I have said/ done things that I haven't. We already have a 7 year old, we were together 8 years then broke up for a year and got back together and got pregnant quite quickly. I have some confidence issues and it was pretty much me that chased him to get back together, the 2nd pregnancy has been very tough on our relationship. I have had next to no support. I still love him, but don't know how he could walk out at 38 weeks, he left me a message saying he hates me, im a c* and he is disappearing.

What do i do?

If that's what he wants to do then balls to him! You have your children as your priority and as you said, it's been rocky for you both. You'll be absolutely fine on your own, you deserve respect and someone who treats you right. Hope you're ok xx

What a knobber. Do you have family and friend you can rely on to support you through the last bit of your pregnancy and the newborn days? I wouldn't be relying on him, that's for sure.

You can do it girl, you don't need to be worrying about whether or not he'll actually be there when you need him or not. Get some back-up sorted and take it from there.

What was the argument about, just out of interest?

Contact CMS and have them chase him down for maintenance.

Outside of that don’t bother with contacting him. He wants you to fail and run after him. Don’t give him that. You and your babies don’t need him.

Practical stuff first. Organise someone to take the eldest while you give birth and if you can a birthing partner for you. If there isn’t anyone contact your midwife - they will have seen it many times before. Then line up people to help immediately post birth. Help with the school run and if a friend is willing to organise it maybe a meal train?

I promise you can do this.

Jesus, calling you a c**t any time is awful, never mind 38 weeks pregnant. Sounds like he's not happy with something and his spitting his dummy out and wants you to chase after him. He needs to grow up. Regardless of what the argument was about he should know that now more than ever you need support.
Just leave him to it.
Concentrate on you and your children.
Get a plan in place for birth.
You can do it.

He's the c* not you!

I would change the locks. Sod him.

Do you have any family you can lean on for support? GemmeFatale has given some excellent advice above.

Sorry you're having to go through this :(