Hey MrsMar, thanks for your thoughts on this, sorry to hear you're painphobic. I am a bit like that with the dentist and I know you can feel really irrational and stupid, but really fear of pain isn't so irrational at all! You're best to do all you can to feel in control, as you said.
I'm under consultant led care rather than the midwife because I'm overweight, and because of this I spoke to a consultant anaethetist a couple of weeks ago who advised me to go for an epidural early on in labour as he considered it to be a delicate procedure made slightly more tricky because of my weight (not that I carry much weight on my back)
So he would like the optimum time available between contractions in order to site the epidural and to get the best possible odds of it being successful, which means catching me before everything gets too hectic, ie when contractions are still 15-20 mins apart.
Which doesn't leave me much time to "see how I get on" really! The way he explained it sounded so rational and calm, saying it would provide adjustable pain relief right the way through labour, and would cover any interventions that may be necessary such as episiotomy, ventouse, forceps, and even a c section as long as it wasn't an emergency one.
My dp thinks it sounds great because as he puts it "You don't let yourself suffer with a headache, you do the sensible thing and take a painkiller... this is no different" (I know, big debate there that I don't want to get into, but on a basic level I can see what he's saying!)
The Anaesthetist said that a mobile epidural isn't a problem, it just means a lower dose, which should allow me feel when to push, but he said I shouldn't expect to be able to march around the corridors with it.
All sounds a bit too simple. I can't shake the feeling that if I go for instant pain relief then I haven't even tried... but then again there are valid reasons behind what he is saying, and I have to keep in mind that I don't have to prove anything to anyone, all I want is a healthy baby at the end of it!
It's all so confusing!