Any one pregnant and single?

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How you finding it?
I find it tough sometimes

I’m afraid I can’t help first hand, but my friend was single and pregnant and she found it quite tough sometimes. She knew she could call me day or night if she had a problem or needed to talk though. Have you got friends/family who are being supportive?

I am. My partner left me a few months in. It’s very rubbish some times. Worst part is I’m a high risk pregnancy and they constantly refer to ‘ my partner ‘

I am but have a fantastic support system of family and my ex partners family,i find it tough as i always dreamt of the"perfect" family.. its hard knowing this time last year i was so happy and had everything i wanted... for what my ex partner has put me through since the beginning of this year i believe my baby was sent to me as way to get me through it, hes due in a couple of weeks so im sure all the drama of the last year will all be so insignificant when hes in my arms.

Me. Very unplanned pregnancy from casual relationship.

It. Is. Rubbish.

You are not alone, if that's any comfort.

I am hun and I am currently 20 weeks pregnant with my 3rd child. it is tough at times but sometimes that's better then being in a failing relationship

To all you going it alone, you have my absolute admiration 

I'm still really early only 8 weeks so only told one friend and she's there when she can be.

Positives it's the decisions you get to make yourself no compromise.
Negatives can be a tad lonely.

If anyone needs a chat ever though I'm here ☺️

me.

Mutual break up and he will be still 100% involved. He is welcome in my house whenever he wants for the baby.

Wish we could work it out but I am not sure its for the best - too many hormones in the mix atm to think straight!!

Im not lonely if im honest - im too busy to sit and mope

Hey I’m single too, Dad came with me to antenatal class today though and is involved. Weird when they kept saying baby would know our voices...she’s only heard his handful of times and I bet she doesn’t know him :/

Maybe I'm a soft touch feeling lonely don't get me wrong, I work two jobs and I also am doing my masters at uni, plus running a house and looking after my little one so I am really busy, don't want you thinking I'm doing nothing and just moping 🙈😂

I was single and pregnant at 17 boyfriend done a runner after 3 years when I was 15 weeks had my son 2 days before I turned 18 it was tough at times especially at appointments and that.. and I think everyone craves that family unit! He's now 9 and we are so so close the relationship we have is amazing he's literally like my little best friend! I'm now in an amazing relationship and due a little girl in March! Please believe all the hard times you will experience will be completely over looked by all the amazing times you have to come! It may be tough but it's also amazing at the same time! Good luck op! You can totally do this! X

Yes, I'm 23 weeks, I was the one that ended it with him as I just didn't have feelings for him. I'm finding it hard as I have no support system and he is constantly ignoring my messages about the baby

I went through my whole pregnancy from finding out at 5 weeks being single. It is hard, especially when you see other parents with supportive partners, knowing they're getting help you would want. I'm not gonna lie and say it was easy, because there was some nights I sat up wondering how I was going to cope, trying to plan the next day, but it doesn't work like that..

But I have a beautiful 1 year old now, who looks up to me and gets everything she needs, and everybody comments on how well brought up she is.

I'm trying to say you adapt to the situation, you become the best because you want the best for your baby and in the long run your little one will appreciate you a lot more when they're older for raising them single handedly.

I'm glad I brought my daughter up by myself, I am proud of not only the beautiful girl she has turned into, but my self for being her role model, you will be fine, and when you feel like your not, just look at your beautiful baby relying on you and you'll get through it x

How’s things op?

Plus how are you coping Emma? It’s tough being single and pregnant.

Hi guys I'm a single mum of 4 with another on the way. It's not easy but we do get through it and you feel so much more achievement when it's all down to you. Currently 18+2

Wow 4 with another on route! congratulations

I’m finding it hard with my first! You’re a hero. I also can’t imagine being pregnant again let alone completing 4 pregnancies and in the midst of one. Deserve a medal and they’re lucky to have you xx

I'm not sure I would describe myself as a hero lol we have a lot of tough days but then we have amazing days that make it all worth it. This pregnancy is proving tough I'm still suffering terribly with sickness and exhaustion and often nap when they are at school and nursery but we are slowly getting there. Would be easier without the added stress of Christmas though lol

I use the word hero because I’m finding my pregnacy so tough, acid build up, stabbing pains, I think you’ve shown courage to do it all more than once!

This pregnancy has been so rough more so than my others. I am still being sick daily and completely exhausted now I have the stabbing pains too. Without trying to sound like the worst mother ever I have hated every pregnant (other than the excuse to be fat and the baby moving) but I absolutely love labour, I know that sounds odd and I can't explain it but I would do it over and over again. I love the first year 18 months--4 years is a very challenging time but then it gets so much better. My kids all have amazing personiltites funny and little chatterboxes, but my 2 and half year old is quite the handful. But my 12 year old is so amazing, caring and helpful, if he knows I've had a rough day he will stroke my back, help put the younger two to bed and even wash up. I'm so lucky with how well behaved they are, the 4 year old strokes my tummy and sing baby songs, my 8 year old entertains the younger ones playing games and dancing with them while I cook/wash up, I really lucked out with them

Awww it sounds so truly magical, make me want more haha. If they all help out and pull together it’s lovely. I’d just worry I’d have a team of demanding children on my case and I’d struggle for time/money ect. Funny you should say about h birth I’m terrified, you give me hope it isn’t that bad to be excited about it.

It is so lovely when they get along and help out, we have chore systems where they can earn money which helps. We have days where they all scrap and argue with everything but we have more good days than bad. My best friend has an almost 4 year old boy and ever since he has been mobile he has been a nightmare, he answers back, jumps on furniture, hits his mum, ignores anything said to him, doesn't play well with others, runs off whenever you take him out, and makes rude comments about people when they do go out. I said to her the other day I love you but I would take my 4 over your 1 every time and she laughed and said so would she. Her family don't help the situation as they constantly undermine her in front of him and give him everything he wants but she tries her best.

My first was induced as my waters went early and I was only 19 and very scared. But had my mum and dad there which really helped. When your induced you get more one to one time with the midwife and constant reassurance, you also get pain relief as soon as the pain gets worse which is the best lol
My second was a section as he was breech but we didn't find out till the day before his due date. This was by far my worst, I'm terrified of needles and hate not being in control. The recovery time was also a lot longer especially with a toddler.
My third was induced as she was 2 weeks over due, and by far my most enjoyable birth (popping of waters was the worst bit) I had the radio on, a birthing ball, aromatherapy oils and gas and air on tap (it's the best pain relief and only one I've had with all of them)
My 4th was completely natural no pain relief and she arrived in just 6 minutes lol I was just glad I was already at the hospital haha
By the time you get to labour you are so fed up of being pregnant and so excited to meet baby you just think for god sake hurry up and start already lol once it starts you will be amazed at how well you cope and quick you forget. If people start trying to tell you horror stories (and stay away from Google lol) just say politely I'd rather not know, this will scare you more and the more relaxed you are the easier it will be

Yeah I’ve not listened to horror stories and I haven’t watched one born every min or anything because I don’t want to see screaming in agony, you’re right it’s best to remain calm. I’m up for all the pain relief I’m putting it in my plan 😂

Not single as yet but it won't be long. 10 weeks pregnant with first child at 39. Been with my partner for 6 years and he does not want me to have the child. He is ready to walk away from me. Feeling so scared and doubting if I should go through with it, but also concerned if I don't have this baby I won't get another chance. Any one else going through something similar?

@eighties01 oh huni that sounds dreadful, don't let him bully you into an abortion if it isn't what you want. I had one 2 and half years a go and even though I know it was right for me at the time I was single mum of four and youngest was only 3 months, I still feel guilty all the time and wonder what if. Be sure what you want before you make any decisions, but just know as a single mum of 4 and another on the way I wouldn't change it for the world. It is hard work emotionally, physically and financially but we do OK and I wouldn't change it for the world