2 potential fathers

[Izzy3456]

The last date of my period was on the 2nd of September, I’m now 8 weeks pregnant with 2 potential fathers.

One of them being my ex partner for 4 years we had unprotected sex for them 4 years and I never fell pregnant with him. We broke up over 6 months ago and I found a new partner, we had unprotected sex for more than 2 months and wasn’t careful and I fell pregnant with him but unfortunately had a early miscarriage.

We broke up on the 14th of September.. and I slept with my ex of 4 years 2 days later.
When I slept with my ex I bleed a little, I was also having little cramps that woke me up in the middle of the night.
I’m really confused.. is there no way of telling until the baby is born or can I work this out???

If you had unprotected sex for four years with Ex1 and never got pregnant but got pregnant quickly with Ex2 the realistically he is likely to be the father. Only a DNA test will confirm who is the father.
Hope your pregnancy goes well.

@Izzy3456 from your original post it is really hard to say which one it could be, I can understand why you would sway more towards the recent ex because you didn't get pregnant with the long term ex but I know people who try for children for years then all of a sudden catch on. It's very much about getting that bang on timing.
It sounds like you know in yourself regardless of the outcome that the child is going to be very well looked after so don't let any judgemental comments put you down. You've made a mistake, who hasn't? You're dealing with it and I wish you all the luck.

If you have the money, there are some prenatal DNA tests that you can do, but they aren't cheap.

Eg:
www.easydna.co.uk/prenatal-paternity-test/

You’re doing everything right regarding your situation!

Ignore everyone else! They wouldn’t say it to your face, it’s so much easier to be nasty and degrading to someone when you’re hiding behind a keyboard!

Good luck and best wishes for a healthy and happy pregnancy! Congratulations!

Do either know about the situation? It’s a big risk but you could be honest to both. It’s not an unusual situation to sleep with 2 different people and they aren’t just random men they are people you have been in relationships with.

I’m only suggesting that so you may have some support during your pregnancy, rather than just finding out who the father is once the baby is born and having everything unravel then. Not that it will, just thinking of different scenarios

Sorry just realised you are asking if there is any way to know! Not for advice on them...i’ll hush up now!

Ignore the rude and snide comments. Unfortunately the kind of attitudes displayed here (if you're not married and earning 50k a year and happen to fall pregnant accidentally you're to be shamed and reviled).

Unfortunately it's impossible to tell who the father may be, although I will say that if you had unprotected sex with your ex for four years and didn't get pregnant, and then fell pregnant quickly when having sex with a new partner, I'd say it's MAYBE more likely to be the new partner?

It's impossible to know for sure though until bubs is born and a DNA test can be performed.

Congrats on your pregnancy and good luck!

Actually it’s not ‘slut shaming’ it’s a comment on the lack of consideration given to bringing a child into the world not knowing who their father is and without a strong and present paternal figure. Outcomes for students can children are generally unfavourable, hence poor child. My perspective is every child should be planned and wanted. Sleep with whoever you want but do so with full consideration that the most common side effect of sex is pregnancy. Highly effective contraception is available and whilst everyone talks about the 1:4 being unplanned/accidents the statistics show contraceptive success at 95% for implant, IUDs and injections. It’s not rocket science to avoid pregnancy and to fail to do so unless you want a child means poor consideration of the best interests of the child.
Of course it’s hard for the mother but she has chosen that situation.

Oh shut up @CherryPavlova

@Htaylor182 agreed

Ok so you slept with your ex ex on 16th sept and what date did you last sleep with your recent ex?
If 3rd sept was the last date of your last period then the first date was maybe 31st august? Which means you would have ovulated on 14th sept and conceived between 10th and 18th giving you a due date of June 7th. If you did not sleep with your recent ex before 10th sept then against all odds i should think it is your ex exes child. A dating scan can be done if you ask in your local maternity hospital. It is a very close call though and fair play to you for owning up to both of them.

You cannot know without a DNA test. Do both men know that you’re pregnant but that they may or may not be the father?

@CherryPavlova Outcomes for students can children are generally unfavourable, hence poor child.
What? Can you explain this as I'm not sure at all what you are getting at.

Sorry must have autocorrected. Nothing to do with students.

I have plenty of examples where children have grown up without paternal figures and have gone on to do some absolutely wonderful things in life.

I have plenty of examples where children have grown up with paternal figures and are aboslute failures.

OP has not suggested that there will not be a paternal figure in this babies life (unless I've missed that part). She's most likely more than capable of bringing up a child. It's a matter of finding out who the father is.
Broken families don't always mean broken children. And it's a ridiculous assumption to make.

@Somebobyx

Before anyone judges I wouldn’t if I were you.. I need help iv been going out of my mind, I am 27 weeks pregnant and have two potential fathers ( I think ) my due date is 28th January when I check my conceived date it says 7th may I had sex with guy A in March can’t remember the date, then had a period on 3rd April for two week ( I have irregular periods) I then started having sex with guy B from 14th April onwards, I found out I was 8 weeks 3 days pregnant on the 21st June, who is the dad

You're better starting your own thread as you've just bumped an old thread.

Going on what you've said and that you had a period early April before sleeping with man B I'd say surely it has to be man B's baby.

@Somebobyx

Before anyone judges I wouldn’t if I were you.. I need help iv been going out of my mind, I am 27 weeks pregnant and have two potential fathers ( I think ) my due date is 28th January when I check my conceived date it says 7th may I had sex with guy A in March can’t remember the date, then had a period on 3rd April for two week ( I have irregular periods) I then started having sex with guy B from 14th April onwards, I found out I was 8 weeks 3 days pregnant on the 21st June, who is the dad

In this case the father is obviously guy B. It Can’t be guy A as you haven’t had sex with him since march and you had a period afterwards. Sounds like you conceived in May which is during the time you were having sex with guy B. It’s

Some of you are so horrible wow. She's asking for advice because she wants the best for her baby. I feel sorry for some of your children having such judgemental mothers. Disgusting. It's a bit late now to talk about contraception so it's just unnecessary stress and upset for her!!!!
Op I hope you're okay I feel your stress about not knowing all you can do though is wait till baby is here. I don't know the father of my first it was a different situation as I was assaulted but she knows I love her unconditionally and I wanted her that much and I loved her as soon as I found out that I kept her regardless of the fkd up situation. Good luck with everything x

The child has just had their 3rd birthday, so I’m pretty sure she knows who the father is now