"Don't you be doing too much" - aaaaaargh!

[Caz10]

Is this driving anyone else mad??!

I am 15 weeks pregnant, keeping reasonably well apart from normal sickness and tiredness. I work full time, but don't have any other children and have a very helpful-round-the-house DH. I don't have any mad exercise habits, and have what I would class a pretty quiet social life, am never out during the week and if I see friends at the weekend it is for lucnh or a coffee, not hard core clubbing.

I am a sensible adult, and haven't been snorting illegal substances or drinking, and I watch what I eat!

So why why why why does everyone from my parents to random strangers insist on sooking in their breath and saying "oh watch that you are not doing too much" in very disapproving tones?!! Even when I am lying on the sofa!!! It's driving me MAD!!

PS rant over, sorry, is it too soon to blame it on the hormones?!

No it's not too soon

It is annoying when you're not doing much anyway, but just take advantage of it to do even less. I would!!

RG (16+5)

Enjoy it now whilst it lasts...oh the bliss to have someone running around after me...

I think everyone is well meaning, but if it's driving you nuts, a gentle hand on the arm, lean in, and say in slow, gentle tones,

"I'm not a child, I'm having a child."

annoying isn't it

you see, our parents' generation believed that pregnant women had to take it easy, to the point of bed rest at times

then they see us carrying on regardless and get their knickers in a twist

my ILs v stressed about me still exercising at 35wks and even went so far as to hint that my running may have casued my m/cs (at 6 and 7 weeks )

Aaargh Tutter poor you that makes a bad situation even worse.
I should have added that not one of these people has actually offered to help with anything! (not that I feel I need help anyway!)
Thank crunchie for Dh who (so far) has uncomplainingly done all of the housework, cooking and dog walking whilst not telling me to "watch what I am doing"!

And anyway, what I don't understand, is WHAT do they think is too much?! I could understand it if I was bungee jumping or weight lifting or something. To be honest I think I am fairly lethargic and only do the bare minimum at the best of times!

I met someone at 22wks yesterday who says her mum is the complete opposite and says "you're not ill, get going" so I suppose it could be worse!

I tried to lift the bedside cabinet to make more room for DD's crib when she was born. I'd just come home that day, had a c-section but went to do the type of thing we do as second nature. Now that really was doing too much Just hope that they'll still be saying the same when you really do need some help, if they peak too early you'll be doing it all yourself when the LO arrives. I try & let it wash over me & do the stuff anyway.

they all seem to forget that if you go on to have more children then you have to run around etc etc etc and just carry on as normal!

I was thinking about that CarGirl - yesterday I picked up a friend's 2 yr old (who is teensy and light by the way) and I could hear a collective intake of breath across the room (birthday party, lots of mums), and someone of course said "watch what you're doing"!!!

But surely if I had a 2yr old I'd be picking them up all the time? Or am I being really stupid about this?!! Starting to get a bit paranoid that I am flying madly in the face of all sensible advice.

LOL - I keep getting this too "be careful!" "don't lift that!" but then no-one says anything when I lift DS - he's heavier than most things I do get in trouble for touching!

Had a risk assessment thing at work the other day and was told that I should only use the lift now as the stairs are too dangerous for pregnant women!?! WTF?!

My bf is due any day and she picks her 3yr old DS up all the time (gorgeous little thing by the way!). Just do what you feel comfortable with...

I share in your frustration to a certain degree apart from the fact that I'm incapable of doing too much because of my hips. People say "you get some rest" but that is an impossibility! DH used to be at home while I worked 4 days per week but he is working now so I'm running the house while still working. DC are 13 and 9 so I'm re-training them to pick up after themselves. The washing still needs to be done and the hoovering has to be done as the dog is moulting. How can I possibly rest when there's all this to do!?

I can't wait to give up work so I can actually lay around for a few hours inbetween doing the housework!

Is great to know that I am not the only one getting this. I feel like I have been put in a bubble for the last 6 months.

Its so fustrating as I know my limits and I do take things slowly and have regular breaks if doing housework etc. At work everyone thinks I should be sitting down all the time but sometimes I think if I have to sit any longer I am going to get sores on my bum!!

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