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Cassia90 · 27/10/2018 11:17

I had a miscarriage a few months ago and now I'm pregnant again, I'm only about 5 weeks gone but yesterday I just woke up feeling different. I am convinced it's all gone wrong, I just can't shake the feeling off. Any positive stories?

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kpeanut94 · 27/10/2018 16:46

Sorry you're feeling like this :(
I have been in the same boat these last few weeks. What do you mean feeling different? Do you mean lack of symptoms? If so, I've hardly had any! I'm now 9 weeks and just seen baby today at a scan and all is fine. I've continuously thought throughout this pregnancy I have lost the baby, it's only natural to worry after you've had a miscarriage. I lost my twins last year early on and you take it through every pregnancy after that. I have had weekly scans to reassure myself but I'm getting further and further along now and just settling down. The early days are truly the worst.

I have a subchorionic hemotoma too so I bleed often and never know whether it's bad news or good, but all is fine so far.

Get your feet up and try and enjoy it as much as you can. Xx

Cassia90 · 27/10/2018 17:33

Hi @kpeanut94 thanks fo replying. Yeah I had two days of aches in the like womb area if that's makes sense then yesterday absolutely nothing all day. Today, I've had a few more aches and I feel sore inside sorry for the graphic detail. I'm just a nervous wreck and don't know what to do, my partners says if you that concerned go to a&e. Well a. Say what? I don't feel right. B. It's too early to hear a heartbeat anyway so I won't get any reassurance really. In my previous pregnancy which ended is miscarriage I had a lot of poking and internal scans due to bleeding and I'm convinced that contributed to the miscarriage so I just want to be left alone.

Also I took a weeks indicator pregnancy test on Monday and it said 2-3 weeks, I took another one today and it says the same so makes me think the pregnancy isn't progressing.

I've been googling and worried about missed miscarriage I just don't know where to turn to.

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kpeanut94 · 27/10/2018 17:45

I had all the dull aches too!
I think at your stage it's possible it could be baby implanting and your uterus stretching, this is what I was told when I asked the doc about it. It seemingly died down around week 6!

I know what you mean about the scans though, sometimes it's better to just ride it out and then have a scan when you know the pregnancy has progressed enough to see enough info on the screen of a viable pregnancy, hb, yolk sac etc.

I had the same worries as you honestly but I went about it the wrong way, booking scans every week to see how I was progressing. I also did the clear blue digital tests, maybe test in the middle of next week and see what it comes up as? Make sure it's a morning one too so it's not diluted. :)

I know it's so hard to remain positive but you haven't had any signs of a miscarriage yet with bleeds etc. Missed miscarriages do psychologically mess you up I agree! I convince myself everyday my babies heart could have possibly stopped just because I'd been thinking about my 9 week scan last year when I found that my little ones heart had just gave up.

Take everyday as it comes, I don't know if it makes you feel better but you know rather than being at a hospital setting. I felt so much better in a private clinic, wasn't as busy and just made me so much more relaxed going in.

I would express your concerns to a doctor so he could get a referral in place for you when you feel you're ready. I did this around week 5 and they booked me in for 7 weeks where they knew they'd be able to see what was going off for sure.

Lots of positive thoughts and baby dust your way

Xxx

StargazyDrifter · 27/10/2018 18:12

Completely understand how you feel and just wanted to offer a hand hold and say that you're not alone. 💐

I'm in a similar place at the moment: 3w6d after an MMC, a chemical and an ectopic and it's just such an anxious time. But I keep telling myself that I've just got to let myself get on with it this time.

The give the 2-3 week indicator another couple of days and check again on Monday. I say that as someone who is obsessively POAS to make sure the lines are getting darker! 🙈

Cassia90 · 27/10/2018 19:15

@kpeanut94 @StargazyDrifter thank you both.

I am going to do another weeks indicator Monday first thing because the one I did today was at mid day.

I am going to go to the doctors on Monday too, explain how I feel and see if I can get an early scan.

I think it is just an anxious time and I don't want me and my partner to keep arguing because of my insecurities, even though he is being nice I know it is testing.

Thank you both. I never though I'd find an online chat so useful but over the last few months it has literally been my life line x

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