Ectopic? So worried!!

[hayleyfx]

I have a scan booked for tomorrow morning but I can’t stop panicking, I feel like I’m constantly about to have a panic attack. Need some advice!

I got a faint BFP 3 weeks ago but at 13dpo I started bleeding. It lasted 3 days and I assumed it was a chemical pregnancy (I’ve had one before) however my positives haven’t got any lighter and have actually got a bit darker. Still not bright positives though.

It’s now 2 weeks since my “period” and I’m getting some cramps, the odd sharp pain. No more bleeding at all, heavy creamy CM, nausea and tiredness. Positive tests still looking the exact same, not fading whatsoever.

A couple nights ago I had a stomach bug (or so I think) and was up all night vomiting now I’m freaking out as apparently an EP can be mistaken for a stomach bug!?

On top of this, from what I’ve read online EP’s don’t produce that much hcg which would explain not having bright positives at 6 weeks. Most sites have said that bleeding like a normal period and then testing positive is a big indicator of an EP?

I know that I won’t know for sure until I have my scan tomorrow but I’m so worried! I just want to calm down in the meantime. I’ve already had a missed miscarriage, a termination for medical reasons at 14 weeks and a CP. I don’t think I could cope with this.

Should I be prepared to be told that this is an EP?

Also - with my last CP I tested negative before I even started bleeding so I can’t imagine it’s taking this long for such a tiny amount of hcg to leave my system...

Sorry for rambling!

Cramps are pretty normal at the early stage. They used to wake me up they were so painful. There are reasonable, non-ectopic explanations for everything. Take one day at a time. Early pregnancy is always a worrying time, but that worry won't help you. I know that sounds trite, but you really need to take it one step at a time - don't get ahead of yourself.

Thank you for calming me down! It’s ridiculous how worried I am, having previous losses has left me convinced it will happen again and the bleeding hasn’t helped. Early pregnancy is just so stressful!

I don’t want to get your hopes up too much OP, but I never had really strong pregnancy tests either and I also suffered from frequent cramping early on, some pains were very sharp. I’ve gone on to have a normal pregnancy and I’m now 19 weeks. It might not be good news but there’s still every chance it could be, so as PP said take things a day at a time. Let us know how you get on at your scan x

Thank you! It’s lovely to hear some positive stories too, I’ve only managed to find the negative ones so I’m beyond worried! I’m glad your pregnancy is going well, congrats will update after my scan! X

Hope all goes well op 

Cramping in early pregnancy can be very normal, and trying to interpret how dark the lines on pregnancy tests are is nigh on
Impossible and there are so many confounding factors. Blood levels much more helpful. But right now the scan is what you need. Really hope all goes well. Purely
anecdotal but all my babies were born after a few early pregnancy losses plus an ectopic and tube removal,

How did you get on @haleyfx? Hope everything is ok and baby is in the right place 🤞

If you're feeling OK now, I would hazard that it's probably not an ectopic - the 6 week mark is when things could get really unpleasant as the pregnancy starts to grow in your tube.

In my current pregnancy (now 21 weeks), the cramps around that point were horrendous - I was terrified, but a trip to the EPU showed baby was where it was supposed to be, and doing what it was supposed to do. I've had miscarriages in the past so I totally get your anxiety. I hope it went well today!

Thinking of you, @hayleyfx. I hope it went okay today x