I'm having a miscarriage :(

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Me and DH are heartbroken. I had a scan this morning after visiting A&E over the weekend. The scan today has confirmed the worst. I am probably going through the process of a natural miscarriage 😪

There was a tiny sac (14mm) with no detectable baby or heartbeat. Which means baby stopped developing a good few weeks ago. I should be 11 weeks pregnant. HCG blood test confirmed levels have dropped by almost half since Saturday. The hospital have booked another scan for next Tuesday to confirm what we expect.

I've had bleeding for over a week now. I was just wondering how long after bleeding started, it took for other ladies to miscarry naturally?

I really don't want to feel or see baby, I'm heartbroken as it is. And I wouldn't know what to do with it when it passes 😭 I was hoping to have the surgical operation but may be another 10 days yet 😢 me and DH are keen to get trying for another baby too 💙

Thanks for reading and any advice xx

I’m so sorry this is happening to you

I’m sorry I can’t I’ve you any guidance as mine was a missed miscarriag, and I opted for a surgical resolution.

I’m sorry for your loss.

Sorry this is happening to you. Happened to me with my first pregnancy too. Heartbreaking. I opted for surgery and recovered quickly (and also became pregnant quickly afterwards). Best of luck

So sorry this is happening. It's not nice. Something similar happened to me, the bleeding became very heavy, with lots of cramps, like really bad period pain. Stock up on some pain relief and get a hot water bottle on hand. Find somewhere cosy and warm.
I wasn't aware of passing the sac, sorry if this sounds a bit grim, but as my miscarriage progressed there was quite a lot of biggish clots, but it all looked just like a very heavy period.
I fell pregnant again a few months later but miscarried very early, but a few months later became pregnant with DD. I think the advice I was given at the time was to wait for another post mc period before ttc, more to allow better dating and to give yourself a little time to adjust and heal.
Is this your first pregnancy?
I still feel sad occasionally about mine even though it was more than a decade ago.

Sorry to read this, it's very hard. Such a shock and disappointment for you both.
As to how it will move forward, it is very variable. (I have had 4) If the bleeding is quite heavy, you might not notice anything specific when your baby passes. I only did once and it was a small fleshy sac. I have also had the operation and for me it was easier, but I did not have to wait long for it. Maybe you could be booked in and then if your bleeding stops first you could cancel. A follow up scan is handy to check there are no "retained products", if you are offered one.
It's a very tough time but you will get through it and - when you feel able to - no reason why you shouldn't have a successful pregnancy.

At my 8 week scan no hb was detected. Next day I had actual contractions, with bleeding, then the urge to push. I actually caught it - wasn't thought out I just wanted to say goodbye and have some closure. The pains and bleeding slower right down almost immediately. Period blood amount for about 3/4 days.
I was confident enough to stay at home alone and manage. If you feel out of your depth do call someone /mw /ambulance.
Sorry for your loss.

So sorry you are going through this. I had a natural miscarriage at 9 weeks in July. It was a couple of days of cramps like a bad period which stopped when I passed the sac. It’s not nice but I tried to see the positives like at least it wasn’t ectopic and I hadn’t had to lose a tube etc. The bleeding lasted for 10 days for me and my period returned three weeks later. Give yourself time to heal, have lots of rest and cry when you need too. Sending you strength and hugs x

So sorry panda it's an utterly shitty thing to happen to anyone. It happened to me in the summer. I have shared my story below, warning it may be a bit graphic but it might help. But feel free to scroll on if you are not at the place where you can read it.

I had been bleeding a couple of days before a scan at EPAU confirmed my baby has stopped growing at 8 weeks (I too thought I was 11 weeks. Initially I decided to let nature take its course as I had already started but after a couple of days decided to take the medication (the staff were amazing at my hospital by the way and gave me all the time I needed to decide). The tablets kicked in almost immediately and I had some sharp pain but nothing like as bad as I feared (although I did feel quite woozy). I felt my body gearing up and I just wanted to get home (I had to take the tablets at hospital). Things happened quite quickly then and the actual miscarriage was actually relatively painless and quick (sorry if tmi but the sac just literally fell out while I was on the loo). It happened just about 3 hours after the tablets. I know it's not the same for everyone and for others it can be very painful.

For me, miscarrying naturally felt like what I needed to do. I hadn't really felt pregnant compared with my first pregnancy I just knew it wasn't right from the start. Doing it naturally was something practical I could do for my baby, something to make it seem real, something to connect us. I fished the sac (which was about the size of a plum) out of the loo and put it in a paper towel in a tub in the fridge. I did manage to see my little bean and was initially shocked but was glad I had seen it. At 8 weeks it was so amazingly fully formed, the size of a kidney bean. The next evening DH and I made a little bonfire and sent our little one on its way - I didn't want to bury it under the ground, this way it was set free. It felt like a final act of love. After that I bled on and off for a couple of weeks. Then my first period was almost as heavy.

I hope my story hasn't upset you OP. I guess I wanted to share a story about baby loss that isn't just pure misery - there can be some glimmers of light. Weirdly through it all, despite the fact that the pregnancy hadn't been viable, I had a really strong sense that my body knew what it was doing.

Everyone is different and I have read lots of stories of women who felt like the surgery was the best route for them. it's a horrible decision to make and ultimately only you can make it - it's your body. I hope you have plenty of support - I found reading all the no-holds-barred stories on here helpful as it helped prepare me, even though it wasn't actually as bad in the end for me.

Thank you all so much for taking the time to write back to me. I'm sorry to hear you've been through similar experiences too. It's something you never think will happen to you and is just so heartbreaking. Who knew you could love and miss someone you've never met this much 

The sitting and waiting now is the worst part. Luckily I have a one year old little boy to cheer me up whilst my husband is in work.

Take care all xxx

i'm so sorry. I had this in july. In the end i still had to take pills as despite bleeding i hadn't actually miscarried. Its pretty horrible.

I'm sorry to hear about your loss but would like to give a bit of hope!

We miscarried in December last year and should have been 9 weeks pregnant. We came back from Disney Paris after no drinking and no rides. On our way back we rushed to hospital and confirmed that i was having an incomplete miscarried.

After I stopped bleeding and everything passed through we both agreed to try again although they didn't recommend it and said for us to wait till after my monthly period.

We done the deed before waiting and I'm currently now 41 weeks waiting for this baby to make an appearance. We had a dating scan and confirmed I was 6/7 weeks.

The trauma of having this miscarried did make me panic and worry and we did pay for private scans but it's all worth it.

Not saying you have to rush into things but there is no harm trying again once you're ready!