20 week scan tomorrow.... terrified

[CobaltRose96]

Hi all,

I'm currently 20+3 with my first baby. This is my second pregnancy (I suffered a MMC at 12 weeks back in April).

I've got my anomaly scan at 11:15 tomorrow and am absolutely terrified! My 12 week scan was fine and baby was wriggling away, and my blood tests came back as low risk. But I'm still utterly terrified and have almost convinced myself baby has something gravely wrong with them

I think part of my anxiety is that it feels too good to be true, iyswim. After my loss in April I fell pregnant again within two months and so far this pregnancy has been a breeze (very few symptoms, I don't even really feel pregnant, and no issues like bleeding or pain like I had in the pregnancy I lost). I'm just waiting for the other shoe to drop.

Plus, I've not really felt many movements. A few flutters and pops but very very subtle and I'm not even sure if they're baby or just gas.

I've almost convinced myself that tomorrow I'll be told baby is very ill or has already died. I know it's not likely and it's just my anxiety, but argh, it's driving me mad!

Has anyone else experienced this? Any words of advice or wisdom?

Bump!

Breathe deeply
Just concentrate in that before you go in
And nothing else
It’s terrifying I know (after a mmc) but that’s what I found got me through it

I know how you feel! I'm only 14+5 with 3 MCs in the past 2 years and feel exactly the same: I'm just waiting for the worst to happen and I'm absolutely dreading my 20wk scan already.
I was dreading the 12wk one too and got good advice from the midwife which was to tell the sonographer how anxious I was on the day and to try my best to relax and distract myself as much as I could. It worked to a degree and I'll follow the same advice at the next one.

It's such an anxiety inducing situation!

@CobaltRose96 - bless you. I remember feeling the exact same! The anxiety was horrible. I'd have two previous MCs and the whole pregnancy never felt real, until I was in those scans. It made me more excited than nervous! I found having a bath, washing my hair, shaving, laying my clothes out ready etc etc really gave me a focus and helped will those hours away. On the actual day, remember to drink plenty of water, take lots of deep breaths and buy a few trashy magazines while you're waiting. And remember to get some money out for those lovely photos!

It's a wonderful scan, although long as they're checking for certain things, you get to see baby for ages and also find out the sex! Statistically the likelihood of something being wrong is so slim. Or they would've picked something up at 12 weeks. So try to keep that in mind. And once's its all over - you can go shopping for some outfits!! Best of luck  (FYI my 4 month old DD is sound asleep on my chest. I never thought I'd get here) x

Thank you so much everyone! I was an absolute wreck before my 12 week scan (cried in the waiting room) as it was at my 12 week scan last time that I found out I'd had a MMC. But, there was baby wriggling away!

I'll be sure to update you all tomorrow with pictures!

Good luck OP. 

I felt exactly the same before all of my scans this pregnancy following two MMC’s last year. I was utterly convinced the first would show another dead baby and the second scan I felt him moving so knew he was ok in that sense but was certain something would be amiss.

I think the most important things to remember are that the stats are actually in your favour and that the changes of something being wrong are very slim. The chances of something being wrong that they can’t rectify are honestly next to none since science has improved so vastly. In all likelihood your baby will be just fine good luck.

@CobaltRose96 we’ve spoken before! I’ve got my 20 week scan tomorrow following a miscarriage at 12 weeks and a blighted ovum at 9.

I could’ve written your post myself. I’m not sure if I’ve felt the odd nudge or whether it’s just been gas- my stomach is all over the place at the moment. All sorts of tummy pains the weekend but I’m
Hoping they were just gas.

It’s just terrifying. I hope all is good for you! Mines at 11:10! I’m going
To bed as soon as bake off finishes so tomorrow will
Hurry up! Hope I can sleep x

Hey OP - I could have written this! I’m 18+3 with my first after an MMC in May. It is a struggle to stay positive. I try to keep myself distracted as much as possible - I’ve been so good at keeping in touch with people because every time I have 5 spare minutes I text a friend instead of fretting! I hope it all goes well, I have all my fingers crossed for you - let us know how you get on x

Hi all!

After endless worry, our scan today confirmed our little girl is perfect ❤

She was being a little monkey and had her face wedged against the placenta, so it was hard to get a good profile

Congratulations!!!

Same here! A healthy happy little girl dancing around happily!!! What a relief!!!! Xx

Oops, just realised I posted the update on my name changed lurker account... pillock But that is indeed me

Aww her little squashed up face! That's too cute. Congratulations!

I’m really pleased for you! What good news for a Wednesday afternoon x

Great picture.

@MollyHuaCha, my 12 week scan picture was very clear too! Clearly she's photogenic

Her little squashed face 🙈

Congrats! Glad it went well for you