I don't enjoy being pregnant, Bad mum?

[newmummyjan19]

DISCLAIMER: I know some of this will sound like I am ungrateful that I am having a child but this is my own personal thoughts and also this is very long so if you hate reading you would leave now

One of the things that pissed me off is the term "Morning Sickness" like you wake up, throw up and it's all over by lunch time.

It was all day and all night sickness.

One of my lowest points was feeling completely knackered and having to spend the night in the bathroom hugging the toilet as I threw up the bag of cherries I had eaten earlier.

At around 22 weeks it stopped and I felt amazing only for heartburn to kick in. I drank 12 litres of milk per day to ease the heartburn nothing else worked.

I would have a carton of milk in my hand and swig from it. If I thought I was going to run out I panicked.

I then did it all again.

Also not a fan of being pregnant. I'm currently 16 weeks in on my second and the symptoms are worse this time.
I went from being my healthiest and fittest in my adult life to the slowest, antisocial, most tired, sickest in a week.
The only things I like from pregnancy is feeling and seeing baby move and taking home my baby at the end of it.

@Oliversmumsarmy

I agree with you on the morning sickness... all day sickness more like I was the exact same until I was 16 weeks and it slowly came to an end and now that I'm getting into my third trimester I'm starting to feel it coming again... it's like fighting a loosing battle

Yep I'm hating it too, was definitely planned but as someone else said it happened a whole lot quicker expected (I found out the week I started a new job!) horrendous sickness which has now passed but has been replaced by severe back pain (been signed off for this week) which even interups my sleep, when the baby moves its really weird and makes me feel a little sick and don't even get me started on the anxiety!!! I am fully aware that "it will all be worth it" but I don't need reminding all the time!! 😘

Put it this way, I have 5 children and I’ve hated every single pregnancy. I don’t even get morning sickness so felt ashamed I was such a grumpy moo. Once they were born, loved them, (for 5 minutes) until the real hard work kicks in. What I can tell you is though that for most of us, behind the smily ‘oh Everything is perfect’ look, we do too have similar worries as you do.
It’s bloomin expensive for a start but thanks to the internet and 2nd hand stuff you can save a fortune. If you’ve already dolashed our on new stuff, you could always take it back. Then get bargain hunting. I’m always amazed at the reasonable prices of really good quality stuff out there.
Debt is a bummer, but it’s easily manageable. If you need a break, just write to the companies and explain you’re having a tricky time and have a big change of circumstances, and can they pause payments for 6 months. They usually say yes and it will take the pressure off.
I totally get your plans have shifted completely. Of course it’s a massive shock. Everything about your baby is a reminder of what you feel has been taken away from you. Just to reassure you, even for the mums who have spent forever trying to conceive still have moments of sheer panic.
You are going to be ok. Hopefully you have a good network of support.
You’re a far better person for being honest about your feelings. I love each of my kids but I can assure you, there are a fair few times I’d like to slap a wet fish around their chops!!!!
Maybe try thinking about if you suddenly lost your baby, would you feel relieved or would you also feel something has been taken out of your hands. I don’t mean that in a horrible way. Maybe you’re a planner and feel safe when you’ve planned. You have planned this baby though, because you had a choice to terminate or continue. You chose to continue.
You are not a bad mum at all. You’re an honest one and I think they are the best kind xxx

I've always wanted to be childfree I don't have a maternal bone in my body I like you couldn't go through with the termination I am 15 weeks and absolutely hate it. I don't want the baby I honestly feel like my life is being ruined by it.

I had the ungrateful comments however am still trying to wrap my head around how to try and be a decent mum. I don't even like children can only do them in small doses so op you are not alone

OP I HATE being pregnant, I now have pregnancy induced carpal tunnel, sacroiliac joint dysfunction which means even walking is like a knife to the back, rendering me useless in most practical ways and gestational diabetes so I'm constantly stabbing myself with needles, blood testing and my lovely exciting work secondment is being affected. I've told DH no more this once is enough. I know there are women who love the experience, but not me.

Haha I loved this post, I felt so grossed out by baby movements at first but when I told the midwife she looked aghast! Well you know what that’s how I feel! They always say ‘oh everyone is different’ yeah except when u say something they don’t want to hear! We’ll be great mums I’m sure and have a better sense of humour than most others

Totally normal so many people told me they loved it but I couldn't stand it and just wanted it to be over. I felt vile the whole time and the birth was the most awful experience of my life but would i change anything...No...i love my child SO much words can't describe how amazing the love that grows between you both will be so a few months of hell will be worth it for a lifetime of love!