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How do I try and minimise my paranoia?

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tiredmama25 · 21/10/2018 20:41

Hello,

I am currently 4wk+5 pregnant with my third child. I am really struggling to contain my worrying and anxiety and it's really starting to affect my every day life. I feel like I am no longer functioning as a normal person!

For context, I had my first child with no complications - fell pregnant straight away.

Then when trying for our second we experienced a MC at 6 weeks, followed by an ectopic pregnancy at 8 weeks which ended in a ruptured tube and internal bleeding. Despite this, we eventually had our second child (a couple of early reassurance scans) and all was perfect.

I didn't expect to get pregnant as quickly as I have with DC3 - it took almost 2 years last time. After the initial (happy) shock I thought I'd be better this time, more relaxed. But the pregnancy insecurity is creeping in, the obsessive pregnancy testing and now the ectopic worries are keeping me up at night. Every twinge or ache, I'm thinking the worst.

I'm not sure if I'll be eligible for an early scan on the NHS due to my history, but I've emailed an early scan clinic to arrange an appointment once I reach 6 weeks anyway. Although it's less than two weeks away, it still seems like a life time.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation that can reassure me/give me some advice on how to try and remain a bit calmer.

At the moment I nothing to suggest there is anything wrong, I have a bit of nausea/food aversion/heartburn/tiredness etc and I've had no bleeding or pain other than the odd twinge and stretch. With my ectopic, alarm bells started to ring for me when I had a "period" but the Dr assured me it was normal.

Sorry this was so long! Just feels good to write it all down.

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Iswallowtoothpaste · 22/10/2018 17:21

@tiredmama25

I went through similar to you, in between DD and this current pregnancy (8+2 today) we had an early miscarriage at 5 ish weeks and a MMC in June at 10+3 (baby had died at 9+3).

I actually thought I’d be a nightmare this time and of course, I have my anxious moments but I’ve actually dealt with this much better than I thought i would’ve done.

I just think there’s more chance of it going right than going wrong at whatever stage you are. I’ve also been taking Bach’s rescue remedy which I think has helped a bit. Staying away from google has also helped!

Good luck OP, I wouldn’t worry about symptoms, you’re still pretty early to be having those yet.

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