Fiance isn't speaking to me

[Courtneybrown]

Hi last night i caught my fiance smoking he continued to lie about it he lies to me all the time and can't just tell me the truth about trivial things..

I told him last night i don't trust him he then went out and hid and had another cigarette.

We both stopped smoking 3 months ago due to expenses and our chidrens health aa they all have breathing problems and the fact im pregnant again.

I feel betrayed again i know im hormonal but he's now not talking to me am i being irrational ?

Nope. He's being a selfish tw*t

How do i work around this ... he has been unfaithful during my last pregnancys i thought i was having to worry about that

But if its not that he lies about other things now :/.

I'm sorry to be the blunt one but if he's been unfaithful before and he's still lying about little things then I don't think this is the right guy for you. You deserve way better than someone who clearly doesn't give a toss and you've given him chances before by the look of things. Xx

I've had 3 kids to him have been together for 8 years but im learning more things about him that i dont like ... hes cheated on me during all 3 of my Pregnancys but i promised myself i would work it out for my childrens sake i just feel so deflated with the constant lying i dont know if anything he ever says is the truth.

Seriously you need to leave him. How could you ever trust him again?

Children aren't daft, they will pick up on tension/stress etc & won't thank you for staying in a shit relationship for them.

Stop having more children with a man who has a proven track record of being unfaithful & therefore treating you & your kid's like shit.

I've seen the Freedom Programme being recommended on here, check it out.

L t b

Thank you I'll have a look at it my mum has offered to help out with child care and things well im at work if need be so im not alone ... just feel I've invested to much into the relationship and its just getting old now i feel wore out x

You have one life, investing more time in this is just wasting more precious time. Get out and give yourself a chance to be happy.

I think i also feel bad for him as he's never worked or wanted to so i keep us all my father has tried to give him jobs he just isn't intrested .... so he has no way to keep himself he doesnt even have a state pension as he wouldn't sign on either ... the choices you make when your younger lol x

Kids will be more messed up living in a bad environment where you're not happy. And you deserve to be happy too. Screw him, he's had enough chances to invest in you but clearly he hasn't. Leave and start a better life x

Thank you I've known all along it isn't beneficial to my kids i just think it was better them having both there parents than not.

I think it is just daunting taking the first step.

Sorry but no idea why you’re still with him and have had 3 kids with him. Sounds like he needs to go and is having a easy ride.

So he's a Feckless scrounger who cheats on you and lies to you? He harms your children by smoking. You're a glutton for punishment. He doesn't provide financially or for your emotional needs. What a fucking loser.

If you don't wake up soon you'll very likely regret it when he's not there for you when you really need it.

Where does he get money from to smoke if he doesn't work or sign for Jsa

And how does he provide food for his 3 kids if he doesn't work.

Google the sunk costs fallacy, you're basically throwing good money after bad