Just found out I'm 6 weeks pregnant.

[laur1994]

Hi everyone. I've just found out that I am 6 weeks pregnant with my first child. I am in a strong relationship and have been with my oh for 6 years. I love him dearly and the pregnancy was planned however, neither of us were prepared for how quickly it would happen!

I have always wanted children and was over the moon when my partner said that he was ready. Now I have found out I'm pregnant I cry every day and feel very down/depressed. I am so shocked at my reaction as this is what I have always wanted. I feel awful that I do not feel one bit of happiness or excitement, all I feel is sadness and anxiety. Is this normal? Did any of you experience this?

Hey yep totally normal feeling! Ours was totally unplanned although we did say we would have at least one kid at some point. When it happened I was totally freaking out. It wasn’t until the 12 week app then 16 week I felt more ok with it. I think it was more the shock of changing lifestyle but logically now there aren’t going to be as many changes as first thought. We’ll just adapt! Hope you feel more positive about it soon. I was in tears for WEEKS if that makes you feel better! It’s totally normal. Other half couldn’t fathom why I was so upset by it all, until the 12 week scan and he freaked out! Looking forward to it now and feels way more real now I can feel baby move. I’m not maternal at all to be honest but now the kicking has started, again my mindset bas changed. Rollercoaster isn’t it!

Everytime I think about it I just burst into tears. My partner doesn't understand why as I had always wanted to be a mum. I feel like I have no one to turn to and feel as though I will never feel positive about it.

Oh god, I've just found out the same and am feeling exactly the same. I'm even considering getting an abortion because I just don't know if I'm ready to 'give up' my life. I'm hoping it's just the shock / hormones and I'll be able to think straight again soon. I hope you're ok and your feelings of uncertainty pass! X

I also feel like this. Currently struggling to feel anything positive and feel sick when I think about all the changes to come. Feel so guilty about it too :/ I've wanted this for ages.

I chatted to my mum about it and she thinks it's the shock and the fact it creates a big unknown. I felt in control of my life before, now I feel like I'm in free fall. I've also had some nausea which hasn't helped as physically I don't feel good - I'm sure feeling physically awful affects mental health too.

Remember you've got a whole lot of hormones sloshing around now, and that's bound to have an effect!

I hope it's just hormones, I feel awful and so selfish!

I had this and eventually referred myself for antenatal counselling. As it turned out after the phone call assessment, I wasn’t eligible for it on the NHS locally, but they provided me with some info on other paid/charity options locally. I felt better by then- probably around 4 months in?- but knowing where to turn really helped. The resulting baby is excellent and I have no regrets. Good luck, I think your feelings are extremely normal, please don’t worry.

Have your feelings changed at all in the last week or so? I'm still very much up and down...

If it helps any it took me until around 12-14 weeks to be ‘ok’ with it. It was after the first scan I felt differently. I’m still freaked out about it but now at 19 weeks & feeling movement I’m excited about it. Took me a while to get my head around the fact my lifestyle may change a bit but I don’t have plans to have any more kids so I’m going to embrace it & I did always says I wanted one kid! It’s differenr for men, it’s not their body or mind experiencing it. Very detached compared to us women who are going through it all.

Are you feeling any more positive about it?

You’ll know what’s right for you x