Pregnancy anxiety - feeling alone

[emilyanne96]

Hi all I'm 16 weeks + 4 today and my anxiety is through the roof. I don't really feel anything apart from sore boobs and all my nausea has gone which is worrying me a little. I keep hearing stories about people used to get flutters in their tummy but I haven't felt any of this but then maybe this is because I'm quite big anyway? I've left my midwife countless missed calls and she isn't getting back to me just making me feel worse. Does anyone else feel like this? My 20 week scan seems so far away and I just wanna know if everything is okay. I sound crazy I know I just keep feeling me being pregnant is too good to be true. I feel great otherwise and really excited but this anxiety is taking over and over shadowing the excitement

Xx

It's quite normal not to have any symptoms at 16 weeks. I had basically zero as that's when I started feeling like a human being again, and it's also unlikely you'd feel movements this early if it's your first - I didn't feel any flutters until 18 weeks and even then I wasn't sure if I was feeling them or not until they became stronger at around 20 weeks.

@Celebelly thank you this has made me feel better I think I'm forgetting everyone is different. It's my 1st pregnancy so I don't even know how I should feel so I'm frustrated because I shouldn't be feeling anxious. This bout of energy has come from nowhere as the 1st 12 weeks I had it really bad. I just have to be patient I guess haha. Thank you again xx

I’m 16w3 and feel similar to you, this is baby 3 for me and just this week I started to feel flutters, with my first and second it was much nearer 20 weeks, so I wouldn’t worry about that. I don’t have any symptoms except tiredness, but the past two days I’ve felt awful but I’m not sure if it’s pregnancy related or I’m coming down with something. I wouldn’t worry x

I didn't have any of my symptoms once I got to 16 weeks. Please try not to worry. I did feel movement early But everyone else I know who is pregnant at the same time as me (there is 9 of us!!) Didn't feel any movement...not even flutters until after their 20 week scan. I know it's worrying....I am now 36 weeks but remember the anxiety well...but I think what you describe sounds perfectly normal xx

Hi @emilyanne96 I was exactly the same. I had two previous miscarriages that added to the anxiety too! I distinctly remember saying to my midwife "I don't feel pregnant anymore - I actually feel human again. Is that normal?!" And she laughed and said every single lady at 16 weeks said the same thing. So please don't worry it's totally normal! You also get to listen to the heartbeat at 16/17 weeks via a Doppler which is lovely 

Also I had a private gender scan at 17 weeks which really helped bridge the gap, so worth it and they're often doing deals so you can see baby for as little at £30. With flutters I didn't feel my DD until I was 24 weeks as I had an anterior placenta - might be worth asking at your next scan where the placenta is placed (although they usually tell you anyway) good luck and congrats! 

Nothing useful to add but just want to say I feel you; before every scan/appointment I'm expecting something to be wrong or that I've messed up the baby somehow!

Thanks so much everyone I feel so much better after speaking to you all. I have an appointment at the doctors for my midwife next Thursday. Will she let me listen to the heartbeat then? I think that will ease my worries massively. Thanks for all your comments xx