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Boyfriend doesn't want anymore children

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TaylorBuff97 · 15/10/2018 20:47

So I've just recently found out that I am pregnant, only by a few weeks, but I've miscarried before so not getting hopes up.
Just had the baby chat and my boyfriend said he doesn't want anymore kids (seeing as he already has two) and he's a little bit older than me. He said that this would be his final one and if I want anymore I'll have to have one with someone else !
Should I see this as a massive walk away sign or hope he changes his mind ?
Keeping in mind he only sees his other kids twice every two weeks.

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adoggymama · 15/10/2018 20:48

He sounds useless tbh. I'd keep the baby if you want it and leave him for a happier life :)

DragonGoby · 15/10/2018 20:49

So I assume you want more than one child? Yes, in that case you should probably walk away. It’s foolish to pin your hopes on him changing his mind when he seems pretty decided.

Lilbear14 · 15/10/2018 21:01

Has he given you any other reason other than because he's already got two?
I have two children from previous relationships, I have told my partner that our baby MAY be the last one I want to have, however, I said that I wouldn't have anymore than two and here I am cooking my third. My partner said that as much as he would like more, he would be okay with just having one with me as he loves my two like his own. I have my children 6-7 days a week and I had my first very young though.
I would never say to my partner that if he wanted more he would have to go elsewhere though, that was harsh.
I think you would need to reflect on your relationship as a whole to make a decision to run or not though. If your relationship is healthy and well then you and your partner should be able to really speak about it and determine together what you both want as a couple. If he can't meet what you want from life then I would concider leaving.

TaylorBuff97 · 16/10/2018 18:11

He doesn't talk about his feelings at all with me, not sure if that's just like a man thing, he's just recently started opening up.
We've had a chat about it and he still doesn't seem that thrilled about having more. I would like maybe 2-3 kids, which would mean him having 5 children, which he doesn't seem too thrilled about

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overagain · 16/10/2018 19:35

He'd entitled to his opinion and had made it clear to you. If you want more kids you'll have to leave him. The choice is yours.

How often he sees his other kids is immaterial really, he still doesn't want more, which he is entirely in his rights to feel, as are you in wanting more.

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