Anyone else not feeling as 'attached' to their bump second time round?

[shoobaloo]

Am 18+ with second child, but, poss down to raging MS and running after a toddler, i don't feel that attached to this bump as I did first time round. REally hit me today that both DH and I haven't reallly stroked it or talked to it or paid it much attention like we did with DS. Am starting to feel very guilty... Anyone else gone through this?

You are not alone ... I'm 24 weeks, nd have only just started to pat my bump - and not really talking to it etc like I did with ds ... mind you, losing 2 babies last year, means that I can't get as emotionally attached to this baby as I did with ds - oh, for the naivety of a first pregnancy!

I was going to do this thread! I'm almost 26 weeks and like you say i'm not as in to pregnancy this time around. Dd is only 18 months so i'm running around after her so i put it down to her.

I'm the same, rather apathetic about the bump at 24 weeks gone (I think it's 24 can't even remember how far along I am second time around!) But then DD (13 months) keeping me very busy and is far better company I think there's a common theme developing here...

Felt exactly that way with dd2 (now 10 weeks). However health visitor commented how alert she was at 3 days and said I obviously talked to my bump alot

Now she is here I love her to bits but must admit she gets dumped in her bouncy chair and forgotten lots while I run around after dd1

I'm quite the opposite this time round. I think with DS, he wasn't planned and my ex-dp had no interest at all in the pregnancy.

This time around however, my DP and I are both really excited and i'm always stroking my bump!

(16+2)

i was exactly the same with my bump, now 9 week old ds2

doesn't seem to have done him any harm!

I've found myself more self-conscious this time about talking to 'bumpy' or aware if I touch my tummy at work or somewhere that people might look at me so I've not been doing it as much as I probably did with DD. DH patted me yesterday on his way out tho' which was nice & the first time he'd done it unconsciously this time around.

yes me too! Also starting to feel a bit bad about it as I was utterly obsessed with my pg first time round. Think it is a bit healthier this way tbh - you have a dc who is already here so s/he needs most of your attention so it is natural you will spend less time stroking yor bump and the like.

But good to know once they are here it all comes good

I feel the same (am now 16 weeks with DD1 21 months) but also feel that the bump is doing everything in its power to get my attention - bleeding at 6 weeks, constant sickness, terrible exhaustion until about 14 weeks. None of this with my first. Also think I am starting to feel kicks which is much earlier than last time.

Thank goodness I'm not the only one! Have been worrying about not feeling the same this time for weeks! Am 33+6 and was really beginning to worry, feel a bit better now.

Glad others feel this way too! I remember a friend who was pg with her 2nd before me saying she hadn't bonded with the bump at all second time around. I thought that was really weird and just couldn't understand it. Last time around, I read my pregnancy books on almost a daily basis (this did seem to make the weeks go soooooo slowly!), wore maternity clothes from about day one and spent a lot of time just cradling the bump with feet up on the sofa . I am now 23 weeks with no2 and have barely thought about it! DH and I have rarely spoken about names, we haven't chosen a pushchair yet and I feel we have hardly acknowledged this pg at all! The good news is that at least this pregnancy seems to be going pretty fast compared to last time, although I'm not sure if thats a good thing - zooming towards being a mother of two?!