Just had eptopic pregnancy

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Hi

I’ve come here to let it all out. After 15 months of trying I finally fell pregnant and 4 days after finding out had some bleeding , after many scans and blood test I was told I needed a laperscopy to look inside to see where it was as wasn’t showing on any scans. It was found in my tubes so had tube removed. I’d love to hear from anyone who’s been through this . It’s been an exhausting 2 weeks as it has been very up and down about which way it was going to go. I’m not at home recovering and feeling bit numb about the future xx

I'm so sorry. I cannot offer any advice as I have not experienced this myself but I didn't want to read and not reply. I think the only thing I would say is to be kind to yourself and surround yourself with people who love you and who you love. It will probably take some time to recover - physically and emotionally - so please please give yourself that time. I had a colleague who went through similar and she did not give herself the space and time she needed and I think struggled because of that. xx

Hi OP,
for you and sorry for your loss. I had a ruptured ectopic in July and surgery to remove right tube. It was a scary time and I found the recovery difficult, it took me over two weeks to feel strong again after the surgery. The good news is that as you had surgery you should be allowed to start trying again straight away (did they give you any advice on this?).

I was terrified that I’d never fall pregnant again but was over the moon to discover I was pregnant on the first cycle of trying after the ectopic. I’m now 8 weeks and have had three scans already just to check everything in the right place and all looking good. Don’t lose hope as I think there are loads of positive stories after ectopic. Sending love xxx

Thank you for your kind words Both. My was also my right tube. I’m glad to hear you had a good outcome I just hope I am as lucky. Was told can try again after a normal period. I just dread the heart ache of it taking so long again and if it goes wrong again! But I know I can’t think like that. X

Hello, I'm so sorry to hear this happened to you.
Like Furble I had a ruptured ectopic (left though!) in July but was told to wait 3 cycles. I felt awful beforehand and after for about four to six weeks - didn't take long enough off work, I really recommend taking more than you think you need!

Waited two periods and am now pregnant again nearly 6 weeks on first cycle trying, with a pregnancy that is definitely in the right place on my scan last week. Fingers crossed the same happens to you.

The ectopic pregnancy trust is a fantastic charity and offers support by phone and email.

Oh poor OP, this is such an awful time. I had a ruptured ectopic, emergency surgery, was very unwell. It took I think 9 months before I was pregnant again (3 months wait - my choice - and 6 months ttc) and my ds2 is 16 months now.

Take things very gently, you've been through a lot

I also had a long, dragged out ectopic pregnancy, so I really recognise your sense of exhaustion and numbness. In the end I was signed off work for 6 weeks, I was physically pretty OK at the end of the 2nd week but emotionally I really struggled. The oddest thing was going about my business and realising I had tears running down my face without realising I was crying. I am eternally grateful to the nurse who took my doctor to one side and insisted he give me 6 weeks.

Take your time, be kind to yourself and your partner.

I'm sorry to hear about you loss. I had a ruptured ectopic and lost a tube during our first pregnancy last year. It was really difficult to deal with the emotions of losing a of much wanted baby, recovering from how poorly I'd been and the fear for the future. We were told to wait 3mths before trying again, and I'm glad we did cause emotionally I wasn't ready to try again too early.
It took us 4 cycles of trying to get pregnant again, the first few weeks were stressful until we'd had a scan to check it was in the right place but luckily all good and I'm currently 5mths!
I had lots of lovely messages of support and stories from people who'd had similar but found it hard to hear them in case it wasn't the same for me!
I hope your recovery goes well, take time to heal and I wish you luck for the future.
There's lots of lovely people on here to keep talking to and share how you're feeling if you need it Xx

I’m sorry for your loss. Not me but a friend had two eptopics- horrible luck- and lost a tube but now has two beautiful daughters, both conceived naturally. Be kind to yourself.

Thank you all. Nice to hear happy endings . Glad it all worked out ok. I’ve got 2 weeks off ahead of me to rest and recover. I find it hard doing nothing when chores need doing etc but i know i have to rest x

I had similar to you OP. The consultant couldn’t find the baby so had a laparoscopy and ended up with right hand tube removed. I had had bleeding beforehand so just thought I had miscarried so it was a shock! I was nearly 40 and had already had miscarriages so things were bleak. However, a year later I fell pregnant with my DD. At 42, we tried again and it only took 5 months to conceive DS.
Take care.