3rd pregnancy and anxious...

[TriPopz]

Planned but suddenly I'm terrified! I feel so ill, worse than I remember with the other two and I'm worried I won't be able to cope with pregnancy with two small children already... And if I can't do that then how on earth will I manage with three kids!?

Also my last two pregnancies/ births/ babies were relatively straightforward and I feel like I'm tempting fate this time...

Anyone else felt similar??

Hi 👋 I’m totally in the same boat as you OP! I have two lovely DC and spent many months debating a third. Fell pregnant a week after coming off contraception so it was a bit of a shock! It felt like I was tempting fate or that I was too lucky and something was going to go wrong.
Seen little bean at 8 weeks and all was perfect.
I have been very unwell this time around, more so with exhaustion and sickness than I was with my kids. I’ve had terrible guilt as the tv has been on so much and home cooked meals have dwindled somewhat to beige freezer varieties. It was really tough for a couple weeks but I’m coming though it now at almost 12 weeks.
Rest and make peace with the fact that you need it! If the tv is on then so what? If they have fish fingers for supper who cares... it’s only for a short time until you feel a little more human. This yuck time will pass and you will cope! You will because you are their mum and that’s what we do! Congratulations on your pregnancy - hand holding while your feeling shitty x

Im feeing the same OP, my youngest is 9 months and I’m not coping with her or her older brother. I wanted another but it happened quicker than expected and now I’m wondering if I’m being greedy... anxious and feeling sick all the time, I’m 8 weeks and don’t want to tell anyone because I think people will say I’m being ridiculous 😫 x

I'm currently at the end of my third pregnancy (8 days to go... not counting!!)

This one has kicked my arse. My first two were straightforward with no issues at all. Bit of sickness but nothing I couldn't cope with.

This one, however, has been bloody awful. Sickness, SPD, VVA (grim!!) and various other ailments, all whilst looking after two other DC.

I'm not sure whether is because it's the third so I'm naturally more tired, because this baby is the size of a small hippo (lots of growth scans!) or because he is a boy (my first two are girls), but yeah it's been tough).

On the other hand, my first two lovely uncomplicated pregnancies turned into horrendous births so that doesn't always follow. Hoping for a much better birth experience this time, despite the difficult pregnancy. Calm and controlled ELCS planned!

VVS* that should be

Also pregnant with my 3rd, 33 weeks and counting. This pregnancy has been more tiring with an active 2 & 4 year old to run around and found it much more exhausting overall sickness aside, with no opportunities to rest. On the other hand it has gone quickly as you just have to get on with it. Also think that am probably fitter as doing all the nursery, school, drop offs and work feels like you are racing around.Also hoping for a quick birth DC2 was easy birth so am hoping this one follows suit.
It is daunting thinking about how to manage with 3 but think it's got to be easier than being heavily pregnant with 2 under 5's?!

t is daunting thinking about how to manage with 3 but think it's got to be easier than being heavily pregnant with 2 under 5's?!

Exactly what I'm thinking (or at least hoping!!)

Thanks guys, good to know I'm not alone! My kids are only 3.5 and 21months so I'm also a bit anxious about people's reactions!

29 weeks with my third, my other 2 are 4 and 3. It’s exhausting, but like a PP says I feel generally fitter and healthier as I have no choice but to do the school run (1.2 miles each way), take them out on their bikes/scooters/take them swimming etc.
I had horrific sickness for the first 20 weeks though so that was tough. I think the next 11 weeks might be a bit of a slog.

Hi I am pregnant with my 5th! My ex did a runner so doing it all also e and it is so exhausting and the sickness is still in full swing (15+4) but I do find the time goes faster. My other dc are 11,8,4,2 and trust me you will cope just fine. My ex was ever so flaky in an out all the time so done it single handed pretty much so ce the begining and you adjust much faster than you expect. Congratulations and good luck

@tripopz my third pregnancy was horrible.
Had been wanting to have another for a while and when we finally decided to go for it it happened straight away which we weren't expecting so it took a few months in shock to actually come to terms with. I know that sounds silly if you are trying for a baby but when the path wasn't so smooth previously it can be a bit of disbelief.

Sickness tiredness and riddled with anxiety. My two older kids spent alot more time watching TV than I care to admit but thankfully we are out the other side too.
Don't worry about peoples reactions it's no impact on them so they will get over it very quickly.
Take all the offers of help you can get.
Make life as easy as u can for yourself.
Let things that don't really matter slide for a while.

Congratulations on your pregnancy.

Hi Im new to Mumsnet not to pregnancy tho. This is my 3rd im 8 weeks and have a 9 year old and 7 year old...im 32.

Its reassuring to know that others also feel anxious and guilty...although i wouldnt wish those emotions on anyone.

Told family today...and feel more anxious now than I did before. Emotional rollarcoaster and like others have said I cant belive its happening. I dont think Ill be able to relax and feel truly excited until the first scan xx

I wasted a lot of my second pregnancy on terrible anxiety, worrying how I'd manage with two... And in the end, newborn and toddler was infinitely easier than pregnancy and toddler. So I'm trying not to make the same mistake this time. Three just seems like a totally different ball game somehow!?

I'm sure it's just coincidence but the kids have been relentless dickheads since I found out... So, seriously wondering why I'm doing this to myself again