It's not hormones.. I'm sure!

[EssexMummy11]

I'm 38 weeks pregnant but I do not want this baby and I can hardly find anything on adoption. I had time from when finding out to abort the baby but I'm a lone parent with minimal help and I just did not have it in me to go through it with possible complications. I am in a complicated situation with the babies father but I do not see it going anywhere.. I don't think I want to be with him let alone have a baby with him..
I thought I was just scared but I actually just don't want this baby at all, it's so sad my toddler loves rubbing and kissing my belly and I'm just watching disgusted because I don't want it.

I'm unsure how to go about the adoption process as my midwife keeps telling me to think about my option but I have and I do not want to delay when the baby is born.

What was the last conversation you had with your midwife? Now you have a definite decision made can you just be insistent on it ?

I would say just stop and calm down. No one is going to force you to keep a baby you don't want, if you feel that strongly after birth you can make arrangements there and then. You've come so far in the pregnancy, I'd say just wait and see how you feel once you've given birth. It's too late to make arrangements for an adoption family and the whole process to take place before you give birth. So I'd say just wait and once you've given birth, if you hold your baby and don't feel anything towards it then you can talk with the staff at the hospital, tell them that you've mentioned this to your midwife and they'll discuss options with you.

If you're truly feeling this way I would suggest speaking with children social services ASAP and discussing it with them. They will support you in thinking through your decision and look at a support plan to help you keep the baby if you decide that is what you want. If you decide it definitely isn't it would be them who would take your child into care & through the adoption process. They will also be able to support you to access the right counselling and support if you make this difficult decision. Please don't wait until baby is born to start having these discussions. Good luck.

@HellaFresh I had this conversation with my midwife at 24 weeks and again at 28 weeks and each time she was lost for words and said I should think about it which I did but since my last appointment with her (at 28 weeks).

Maybe we need to swap midwife.

Today I had my 24 week appt and I’ve got AND.

Anyway I said that if I hadn’t have found out at 12 weeks I was PG I may have done something about it.

She told me I could still have baby adopted to which I nearly threw up as that wasn’t what I was getting at I was telling her I was having trouble because it was a surprise and I was told o couldn’t have kids.

Sorry to take over your thread life is a funny thing isn’t it.

May be on This occasion your midwife has her personal feelings and you need to go above her, like right to children’s services like PP has said.

Good luck