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mummytogirl · 08/10/2018 01:24

Don't mean to write such a miserable post, but I'm stuck what do Confused

I just found out I'm 4 weeks pregnant, unplanned but also very bless to have this opportunity again, however it really doesn't come without concerns. I already have a LG who's just 3, with the dad but he's currently unemployed Due to redundancy, so quickly trying to get work, however my mum has kindly let me stay at her house, longer then I expected to raise my daughters here, mum has been my rock and also child minding while I go to work 2 days aweek, however I'm terrified to tell her I'm pregnant again, one because I don't expect her to put us up here anymore or at least till I can find accommodation but 2 once my bf does hopefully get a full time job again, who's going to have my 2 babies, as I can't expect my mum to now take on a second child, she adores my little girl and probably be heartbroken for us to have to leave but I don't know how to tell her this as I feel it might put her in a early grave. I know this should be the most magical time when you find out that your pregnant. But I'm filled with doubt, feeling anxious, frightened to leave her alone and scared to have 2 children. Also I have massive guilt on my little girl feeling like she's not going to cope with a sibling, she also still gets into my bed during the night so doesn't fully sleep through properly...I just feel so confused, I know I should tell my mum which would help massively with my decision but I also would love to have this baby, but has come as the worst time atm, not sure what to do Sad sorry to sound moany, I know I should be grateful to even get this opportunity xxx

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octoberfarm · 08/10/2018 04:50

Oh love, don't be sorry. That sounds like a really difficult situation to be in, and it sounds like you have a lot of things you're worrying about. You sound so thoughtful, and I know you're worried about how this will impact your Mum, but I really would speak to her. It may well be that all the fears you have about telling her are unfounded and even if not, that you can work out a plan together and/or with the father of the baby. It sounds like (and sorry if I've misinterpreted this) the baby is in some ways a happy/wanted surprise, and if that's the case, it might just be that things moving forward need to look a bit different. Things might not be able to continue as is, but it may be that you just need to make adjustments as opposed to everything being ruined. Little ones adapt to new siblings (mine has and that was against the odds!), and I really do think you need to speak to your Mum so that you have all the information before you completely panic. Wishing you all the best Thanks

mummytogirl · 08/10/2018 08:59

@octoberfarm aww thank for your response, just having someone else's opinion really helps Smile I will speak to her this week and see what she think. This sort of decision is not one I would take lightly, I know things will work out but when atm it's the unknown it's scary stuff, I wish I was a lot more settle in my life that these thoughts wouldn't even come in mind. And I can just get on and excited that I'm having another baby, the fear has taken over unfortunately Sad but I will keep you updated with my thoughts once I have spoken to my mum xxxx

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mummytogirl · 09/10/2018 22:04

Manage to speak to my mum, and she being massively supportive and encouraging and making me believe I can do this. Going from 1 to 2 is very scary thought for me, but something I'm going to try and embrace x

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Jt123 · 09/10/2018 22:23

Aww - going from 1 to 2 is magical. Just you wait. Congratulations and all the best for the future x

mummytogirl · 09/10/2018 22:41

@Jt123 aww thank you so much, really appreciate your lovely words Smile❤️

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octoberfarm · 10/10/2018 01:19

So happy to hear that you were able to speak to your Mum and that she's been supportive. I've just made the leap from one to two and although I'm more-than-a-little-bit sleep deprived, it's so worth it and I can't imagine life without both of them in it now. Wishing you all the best moving forward, you've got this! Smile

mummytogirl · 10/10/2018 22:12

@octoberfarm thank you so much! The relief is unreal, massive weight lifted off my shoulders Smile now just to deal with now having two babies rather then one, feeling a little guilty not gona lie, but I know she's going to love having a sibling in the long run xxx

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