How Did you feel after MMC

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I was at 12 weeks to find out I have had a MMC first pregnancy. We have no children.

I think we will wait until my first period before we try again but how do you cope with being pregnant again?

I will have to go for a private early scan as if rather know what's happening early on then wait until 12 weeks to be told the bad news.

How do you cope the second time? Do you try keep it away from close family as they know what I have gone through.

Sorry for your loss
My next pregnancy following mmc was a very anxious 9 months. Didnt relax til baby in my arms

I had an MMC in my first pregnancy in May this year, and we found out at our 12 week scan. We only told a few close friends and family as we didn’t want to be overrun with advice when we just wanted some time to process it. Unfortunately my MIL decided to tell a whole load of extra people (!) and I wish in hindsight I’d been a bit clearer with saying we wanted some privacy...

We are now at 16 weeks on our second pregnancy - we waited until I’d had my first period, but there was a bit of a delay because medical management didn’t work so I had a d&c a few weeks later - and it’s hard. I worry all the time about whether everything’s going ok, especially now morning sickness etc. has passed. Our midwife has been really supportive when I’ve spoken to her, and she arranged a “reassurance” scan at 9 wks so we could see how it was all going. We’ve also booked a private scan in this week as I thought I’d go off my rocker waiting for 2 mths with no update! Luckily my OH is really understanding and listens to me fret when I having a moment...

All the best of luck for trying again, I really hope it works for you xx

I had a miscarriage earlier this year and I am pregnant again now. I waited until after my first period after the D&C but for the first month kind of wished it wouldn’t happen as I didn’t think I was quite ready. As luck would have it, I didn’t get pregnant that month. I am now at 11 weeks and have been a frequent visitor to my doctor. She has been incredibly understanding and put my mind at rest arranging an early dating scan and another when I was worried about miscarrying again.

I do understand that I have a greater chance of a successful pregnancy than not but after the previous miscarriage, I do find that I jump to the worst case scenario very quickly. But so far, so good.

Thank you ladies for your replies.

Congratulations on the pregnancy.

@RachelYC I am very similar to you have medical management twice but didn't work then had d&c such a long hard process.

How long has it taken for your periods to return?

I’m so sorry for your loss .

I sadly had two MMC’s last year and they both absolutely flawed me, the first possibly more than the second. The second it wasn’t quite as much of a shock as I had already experienced it so was almost expecting it to happen. I had two early private scans with the second one which showed a healthy bean with strong heartbeat but sadly still lost it at nine weeks (discovered at the 12 week scan).

I am now 36 weeks with a healthy baby though so there was a light at the end of the tunnel. I didn’t bother wasting money on private early scans this time and largely attempted to forget I was pregnant during the first trimester because I was convinced I would miscarry again. I didn’t enjoy the first 13 weeks before the first scan at all, I just wanted to pretend it wasn’t happening and was enormously shocked when the scan showed a healthy baby .

It hasn’t been an easy pregnancy mentally, I have had a lot of anxiety throughout and been convinced I would lose him. I don’t think pregnancy after loss is ever going to be easy. Good luck for the future though, I hope you get your rainbow baby.

I've had a mc and a mmc and I am currently just over 8 weeks pregnant again had brown discharge and been very very anxious epu have been brilliant and I've had a scan already and I have another on Wednesday this pregnancy is just awful and I have nightmares about it going the same way. This would be my first child fingers crossed. I had one period after medical management but was eager to be pregnant again. Take care of yourself xx

Thank you ladies for sharing your experiences, make you realise I'm not alone.

I'm a very happy person but feel like i have been knocked which is hard to deal with.

I wish you all the very best for your futures xx