Baby no.2 - really worried about labour this time, can i have a cs?

[booboobunny]

i'm sure there are rules around this, but for some reason this time i am really worried about having a painful delivery and would much prefer to elect for a cs rather than get the fear really badly during labour.

no idea why i'm so worried this time, last time i felt everyone was trying to make me scared and i refused to buy into it. the delivery wasn't too bad at all, although due to a huge baby boom in bromley at the time, were sorely neglected during the whole process (i was induced and saw a midwife 4 times in a 12 hour period, when they suddenly realised the baby was coming and i wasn't even on the delivery ward).

maybe this is behind it i don't know. all i know is that i'm really hoping the baby doesn't turn and they tell me i have to have a cs. but are there any hard and fast rules about electing for a cs when the baby could be born in the normal way??

Painful labour = hard time but is then over.
CS = a major operation and weeks of recovery. I have had both and I know which I preferred.

would you like to talk about your fears? it is obviously affecting you very deeply

and a c.s is not a pain free option either

have you been debriefed on your previous birth ?

and why not look into having a doula, who can support you before the birth and be with you every step of the way during labour?

My 2nd birth was alot better than the first, i was also realy worried with no 2, with my first i was pushing for 5 hours and in alot of pain, with the 2nd i had no pain until the last hour and i was pushing for 30 seconds, also the midwifes were great the 2nd time unlike the 1st.

Talk about your fears to your midwife, when i had dd2 a midwife came and talked to me as i arived at the hospital and went through my birthing plan with me.

i do understand that a cs wouldn't be pain free, but surely it won't hurt as much as a difficult labour? really don't understand where the fear is coming from, as the last one i did on gas and air, i just think that this time i might be due a bad one and for some reason all those horror stories i heard last time are affecting me a bit more this time. maybe it'll pass, but right now the idea of even a 12 hour labour just fills me with fear and dread....

how far along are you?

second labours are often the easiest ! would having a home birth help..being in your own environment, being able to potter about and deal with the labour as you need to?

lord no!!!!! i desperately want to be in hospital! i am a worrier by nature (surprised myself last time) and would definitely want to be where something could be done immediately if there was a problem.
i am due in october, so i have a while to fret about this. i am pretty big already which isn't helping as big tummy=big baby i guess. i haven't actually met with my midwife yet, so she could reassure me that i am being daft. if it's the same one i had last time she was just lovely. fingers crossed. i need something to happen to help me move beyond this before it turns to blind panic!!! husband isn't really taking it too seriously as the last one seemed so easy.

fair dos

i would definitely look into a doula though, and certainly address any fears, no matter how small, before labour !

what about booking an epidural? Then you'd know in advance that pain during labour won't be an issue.

There are a few hard and fast rules, yes - but they all amount to the same thing, which is: "it depends" Check out this website for more info:

www.csections.org/rights.php

thanks. lots of info on there. just what i need. i can then at least have a sensible discussion with my midwife about it.