We went for a private scan yesterday - after 3 years of trying after a previous miscarriage I was desperate to know what was happening.
We saw the baby (tiny blob!) but they say the results were inconclusive and to go back in 10 days - gestational sac size 20mm x 4mm x 22mm (mean 15.3); volume 0.9 ml, CRL 6.5. No visible heartbeat.
This puts me at 6 weeks 3 days. But I should be 8 weeks yesterday:
LMP 10 August, and because DP was working away we only DTD when I travelled specially to see him the day before ovulation on 23 August (day 15).
I got a strong positive test on FRER and a lighter one on clear blue on 8 September (day 30).
But 6 weeks 3 days means I would have conceived on 3(?) Sept (day 25?).
So I think it can’t be possible that this is going to be viable - 10 days between being with DP and conception plus a positive test after only 5 days.
The only hope I have is that I know I have a very very tilted uterus and they made a mistake with size (it was really hard to find anything at all and they really seemed to rush it). Could that make a difference - does that ever happen? Plus I still have all the same tender breasts, exhaustion and nausea, and no spotting or cramps.
But I know that is clutching at straws and my real question is what to do now. I have my booking appointment on Wednesday - should I go and tell them about this or do I phone and cancel? Or call the GP and ask for referral to EPU for another scan before then?
So in limbo and I want to be able to grieve if it’s over - DP is convinced it is all fine (doesn’t understand the dates) and won’t let me do anything I wouldn’t when pregnant (eg I would quite like a small glass of wine tonight). I’m 43 so this is my last chance and I want to be allowed to be sad.
Sorry for the long post. Really grateful for advice on what to do about the booking appointment. Thank you.