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When am I allowed to be induced?

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MumToBe201910 · 05/10/2018 23:04

Hi all,

Just needing a bit of hope! When will my Midwife offer or even look at inducing me? I’m currently 38 weeks + 4 and I’m so miserable with being pregnant. I have pelvic girdle pains, I can’t walk too far, I can’t sleep, I can’t walk the dog anymore and my partner won’t allow me to drive so I’m stuck in day in, day out. I’ve actually sobbed tonight at being stuck in another day yet again.

I’ve tried to speak and tell people how I’m feeling but all I’ve had is ‘your beautiful’ or the classic ‘it’s your hormones’.

My Midwife only sees her patients once a week from 11-3 so I’ve had to go 3/4 weeks without seeing her as her clinic is so full! I’m seeing her Tuesday but I don’t want to feel like I’m out of order for looking at being induced, I’m genuinely at my whits end and need this over with as I’ve never been so down and lonely.

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InDubiousBattle · 05/10/2018 23:14

I think it depends on your area. Is this your first baby? I don't think induction would usually be offered before around 40+ a week or so (depending on your exact dates and the timings of appointments ). I just can't imagine an induction before 40 weeks without a specific reason (such as previous problems, an issue with the baby). I was equally desperate for my baby to just arrive with my dd (dc2)and the registrar gave me a stretch and sweep at 39 weeks but that was unusual and a mw would not have done it.

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MumToBe201910 · 05/10/2018 23:19

Yes this is my first baby. I’m suffering bad with the pelvic girdle pains and they are making me so miserable. I’ve had to come back downstairs just because I’m so frustrated and can’t sleep.

Do you know how long they will allow me to go over? I called the hospital the other day in tears and the midwife advised that they could offer me walking aids and that was it. I feel so guilty for wanting my pregnancy over with but I can’t help it.

Thank you for replying.

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riley1408 · 05/10/2018 23:21

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chapsie · 05/10/2018 23:22

Won't "allow" you to drive???

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MumToBe201910 · 05/10/2018 23:27

Maybe a sweep is an option? I’m willing to try anything. I don’t want her to think I’m being selfish but the pain is unreal and I’ve never felt so lonely being stuck in. I really just want to meet our Daughter and for me to be back to normal, I’m quite an active person so to go from that to nothing is depressing me!

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MumToBe201910 · 05/10/2018 23:28

I can see my DH’s point as I am very big and he is a massive worrier. Driving was my only way of getting out though as I can’t even walk up the stairs without having the sharp pains below.

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1sttimeDD · 05/10/2018 23:29

We had inquired about an induction at 38 weeks and were told it was not practiced at our hospital and they would not induce before 40 weeks.
I ended up being induced at 39+5 due to preeclampsia

riley1408 · 05/10/2018 23:30

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InDubiousBattle · 05/10/2018 23:32

Don't feel guilty even for one second! With my first baby I barely knew I was pregnant, no pain or discomfort at all, just a bump- I remember wondering what the fuss was all about. My second pregnancy was just awful. I was sick and uncomfortable and massive. ALL OF THE TIME. You have all of my sympathy op, it's the pits. People say 'any day now!!!' and 'this won't be forvever!!'. It bloody well feels like it. All of the time. My dd is 3 now and I can still remember the utter frustration of just wanting the pregnant bit to be over and the baby out bit to start. My dd was measuring small from 26 weeks onward (Iwas scanned every week)and breech until 36/37 weeks so I wasn't even remotely prepared to carry her to 40 weeks. She arrived at 40+4 after weeks of false starts and sleepless nights. I had a very easy birth and recovery.

I would advise making your life as easy as possible now. Get take aways, nap when you can, if you have anyone to run around after you, let them. Ignore people telling you to enjoy this time! Your baby will come eventually, in my experience you can avoid induction then I would. Sometimes being really pregnant is really shit.

donkeysandzebras · 05/10/2018 23:33

Could you go for ELCS rather than being induced? An induction can be a very slow process and they may well want to keep you on the bed, linked to a monitor which I found very uncomfortable and that was without pelvic pain.
In our area, you had to be over 41 weeks before they would consider booking you in and they preferred to wait until you were about 41+3 before the day of the induction.
I'm another one who can't fathom the idea of obeying my husband.

SnipSnipMisterBurgess · 05/10/2018 23:33

How is the baby measuring and lying? A long induction can be excruciating if you are not ready. I’m not unsympathetic but you really want everything as favorable as possible for the induction to be successful.

Thatstheendofmytether · 05/10/2018 23:36

With both my kids I had to be 10 days over. I wasn't induced with either just muddled through. Had a sweep with my first a 41 +3 had him 3 days later, and was booked in for induction at 41 +3 With my second but went into labour that night and had him 8 hours later.

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MumToBe201910 · 05/10/2018 23:37

I was actually told the baby was very low about three weeks ago and that’s why I’m in so much pain. The midwife tried to examine my lower tummy and I was in absolute agony! She even commented that she didn’t think I’d go much longer... but here I am still pregnant lol. Maybe that hasn’t helped because I was sure the baby would come earlier than expected but hasn’t.

Can I ask why you wouldn’t recommend being induced? I try and stay away from Dr Google but maybe I need to do some research to understand all the procedures.

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MumToBe201910 · 05/10/2018 23:39

@donkeysandzebras How could I find out my hospital’s policy? I don’t even mind if it’s a sweep to be honest, I’ve only heard of friends etc being induced so I’m probably only saying it because I’ve heard of it a lot recently.

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MumToBe201910 · 05/10/2018 23:41

@SnipsnipMrBurgess To be honest they haven’t really said... The midwife last week said that she was measuring fine but could be lying back to back? My midwife is always running an hour late with appointments so we don’t really have that much time together. I’ve had a straightforward pregnancy other than the sickness at the start and now the pelvic pains as she’s so low.

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InDubiousBattle · 05/10/2018 23:49

Induction can be a very, long, slow process, it's not unusual for it to take a couple of days and usually requires a lot of monitoring. Are you mw led?

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MumToBe201910 · 05/10/2018 23:51

@InDubiousBattle Yes I’m MW led... I’m seeing her this week home. Not sure when I will see her next or if I even will.

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SnipSnipMisterBurgess · 05/10/2018 23:55

I suppose the question is ‘am I favorable for induction? Where is the head? Can I have a sweep?’

I’ve no qualifications so feel free to disregard. My SIL got induced at 38 weeks as she was very big and the baby was large. 52 hours later she had an EMCS (baby was a bouncing nine-pounder but not the 12lb she thought she was expecting) and honestly I think her mental and physical recovery were a high price to pay for another uncomfortable week or two. I am generally conservative about intervention, though; I do hope you can see the midwife on Tuesday and get some guidance - if you don’t ‘go’ naturally first. In the meantime, can I prescribe Say Yes to the Dress, the Good Food channel, and some expensive ice cream

HappyFeet1212 · 05/10/2018 23:57

Your partner wont allow you to drive? That's bullshit. You need & can stand up for yourself. The biggest argument I ever had with DH was when I was 39 weeks pregnant. It was called for & I'm glad to this day that I stood my ground.

In your shoes I would maybe find a private midwife or a Doula to assess you & advocate for you, Are you aware of any in your local area? Is there a local mums FB group? if so, they might be able to direct you at someone. In my experience, you need someone you trust, who has enough time to talk to you so that you can listen & make a balanced decision.

I've been induced 3 times & each time it ended differently. The worst was the second time when the baby just didn't not want to come, I was 40 weeks at the time but with hindsight I should have let him go over. I should have listened to the consultant but I only met her that one time & I wasn't in a trusting place based on my previous birth experience. She was right though, he wasn't ready.

InDubiousBattle · 06/10/2018 00:08

If you've had a straight forward pregnancy and are mw led I really can't see you being induced early. Sorry op, I know just how crap this part is but I think even a request for a sweep might fall on deaf ears until you go over 40 weeks. Please try to focus on making yourself as comfortable as you can now (my 37 week pregnant self is currently wanting to punch my non pregnant self for saying this!). I spent so much time obsessing about getting the baby out that the stressing and frustration became almost as bad as the actual pregnancy. I tried everything, sex, raspberry leaf tea, pineapple, curry..It just made it worse tbh.

It's rubbish being very heavily pregnant.

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