Millions of women have done it before me, and millions will do it after me ....

[peggotty]

But I am about to spontaneously combust with the hell of being in the early weeks of pregnancy and having a 2.5 dd to look after as well. Nausea isn't so bad, just coming and going, but I am bloody knackered and I REALLY REALLY can't be bothered to do anything, especially entertain a highly demanding dd - I am being so horribly irritable and bad-tempered with her, and then consumed with guilt. Bloody jekyll and Hyde mummy. She is eating crap because I can't face or be bothered to cook decent food for her and if I don't go out, the telly is on from the minute she's awake until the minute she goes to bed. Me and dh are not getting on at the mo' and have been having horrible arguments in front of her. God, I just feel sad for her, that this will be her last experience of being the only child... PLease please tell me all this is normal?

absolutely normal.

It won't be for ever as you'll soon start to feel better and this won't be her memory of being an only child

not only is it normal, but it doesn't last, and she won't remember it.

Try to get as much rest as you can, if your dh can help with your dd just so you can get some "me" time, that would be good and make you feel a bit more human.

Cbeebies saved my life at that stage.

Every afternoon, Cbeebies would go on and I would doze on the sofa while keeping an ear open for trouble.

Okay, so ds1's tv viewing exploded, but it kept me human, it really did...

Hi peggoty

Sounds perfectly normal to me. My DS is just over 2.5 and the first few weeks were awful, felt crappy, worried endlessly, exhausted all the time, shouted loads and was generally a stroppy cow. CBeebies were definitely a life saver, don't feel guilty, its very educational

And it defintely passes, I'm 20.5 now and feeling much better and more able to cope. Even able to have rationale discussions with DH about how we'll cope when I'm a massive whale who can't do anything and once the new bub is here

{{{hugs}}} think serene thoughts and good luck with the rest of your pregnancy

GOod old cbeebies - I can't pretend she's a stranger to it anyway....

I have been really trying in the last few days to rein in my hideous temper - she's been playing up a bit, no doubt just feeding off my mood...
Thanks for the reassurance.

Totally normal! ds1 even dropped his naps when I was about 7 months pg The middle bit will get better (although you'll still be apathetic!)

there's a thread here about first trimester tiredness, you may want to give it a read

Sure, if she ate junk food and watched TV for the rest of her childhood then that wouldn't be good - but to let her do it for a few weeks or months is NOT a bad thing at all and you are perfectly normal in how you are feeling! I'd say it's far more important that your DD has as sane a mummy as possible with a bit of junk food, than a mummy who makes herself even more exhausted and miserable by cooking healthy food and thinking up stimulating activities! As someone else said, she won't remember any of this anyway... it's always harder being pg with a 2nd child, as you start out from the point of being tired anyway, let alone with the pg tiredness added on top! It got better for me at about Week 14 - until then my advice is to get a sand and water table and let her potter around in the garden whilst you sit down on a lounger with a nice cool drink Hope you feel better very soon.

Sounds so familiar....I (and dd) am so happy she goes to nursery during the day so she can be without her short-tempered mother. I get to take it out on my colleagues and clients instead