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DH and midwife appointment

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MrsStrowman · 03/10/2018 15:25

Up to this point (29 weeks) I've been to my midwife appointments alone and DH has come to the scans. I've not felt a need to have him there and earlier on thought there was no point him taking time off for general appointments in case I needed extra scans etc later on that I wanted him to attend.
I've got my 28 week appointment tomorrow and it just so happens he has a day off work, the two were not planned to coincide. He's assumed he's coming with me, I don't mind even though I think they're quite boring, he seems excited, but will the midwife think I'm being weird or needy if I bring him?
For context I had a UTI for eight and a bit weeks, no symptoms, I was dip tested twice (6 weeks apart), the tests showed possible infection, sample sent off and told they would call if I did have an infection and needed treatment and if I didn't hear everything was fine. They didn't call either time, the second time I followed it up after the lack of contact first tube, but couldn't get hold of my midwife for a week after, so ended up calling the hospital and speaking to the senior on call midwife, as I was going away and needed to know if I had to get antibiotics before I went, by this point I had actually had an infection for eight and a half weeks. Senior midwife was cross I hadn't been informed twice and I had to go to the hospital to collect meds. I then got a very apologetic text from my new midwife, so assume the senior said something to her. They also cancelled my GTT three times with no reason. I think some of this is why DH wants to come and support me, he's not the kind who'd say anything to MW or make a fuss so I'm not worried about that. But equally I know the midwifery team at my local hospital are sorry staffed and on their knees, up to my last appointment I didn't have an allocated MW and saw someone different each time, I don't want my now allocated midwife to think I'm bringing him for any particular reason.
Am I just massively overthinking this?

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pastabest · 03/10/2018 15:30

You are massively overthinking.

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ConsiderHerWaysAndOthers · 03/10/2018 15:32

If you’re 29 weeks they’ll listen to the heartbeat which will be quite nice for your DH to hear. I think you’re overthinking the rest of it.

Shazafied · 03/10/2018 15:36

Overthinking !! Sometimes my Dh comes with me sometimes he doesn't , MW doesn't care either way !

Happyandshiney · 03/10/2018 15:36

Hughly overthinking. It’s perfectly normal to bring your DH to an appointment if he’s available. She won’t bat an eyelid.

My DH came to several of mine and all my consultant appointments.

s2204 · 03/10/2018 15:37

Not being needy at all... I don’t even think the midwife will think anything of it. My partner came to a few with me when he was off..

Pinkandproud · 03/10/2018 15:38

Overthinking Smile

timeisnotaline · 03/10/2018 15:38

My dh came to every one he could with first child, it was lovely. Enjoy the support and company!

Starsong82 · 03/10/2018 15:54

I'm the opposite to OP, DH has been to every appointment with me so far and I was starting to worry if that was weird! This is our first child and he's really excited, it's great that he gets to hear heartbeat as well :)
OP, If he wants to be there and you're happy for the company I'm sure the midwife won't bat an eye.

hammeringinmyhead · 03/10/2018 16:01

My DH has been to all of them apart from my 28 week appointment (he was abroad for work). It means I don't have to repeat everything and he gets to hear the heartbeat. I don't think it's weird.

Darkstar4855 · 03/10/2018 16:35

In the nicest possible way you are definitely overthinking it! My partner has not been to any of my clinic appointments because he’s been working but I’d happily take him along if he was free and wanted to come.

FlippertyJibbet88 · 03/10/2018 16:50

To echo PPs you are massively overthinking (it takes one to know one!). I didn't even need to get past the "for context..." bit before saying - it'll be fine! My OH occasionally turns up at mine for no reason and then doesn't for others - MW has never shown the slightest bother one way or another :-) Hopefully it'll just be a nice checkup to do together - enjoy!

MrsStrowman · 03/10/2018 17:38

Thanks all, just had the results back from my GTT and I have gestational diabetes ☹️, so just having a bit of a wobble I think. Things have been pretty ok up to now.

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SoyDora · 03/10/2018 18:27

You’re overthinking. I’m on my third pregnancy and DH has never been to one of my midwife appointments but there are always partners in the waiting room when I’m waiting to be seen. I think it’s fairly common for partners to attend.

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