Break up when pregnant

[esmedaniels]

Hello,

I am currently 29 weeks pregnant with my first baby. Recently my partner and I have argued a lot about his family being controlling and them forcing me to sign a cohabiting agreement. After much thought I agreed but wanted to seek my own independent legal advice. Today after many arguments my partner finished with me via text message. He lives far away from me and I was supposed to be moving In with him. He said in the message that I need to start making plans for the baby on my own and "sort myself out". He has also blocked all forms of communication so that I cannot contact him. He has always seemed excited about our family and having a baby but now he is saying that he doesn't think it will work. He has called me irrational and hard work and said that I have said too many things about his family. I have called them bullies and controlling in anger.

Now I have no idea what to do. I am in my late 20's but I would have to move in with my parents as I only qualify for maternity allowance from work. I'm scared of having this baby alone and imagined we would see past the arguments and be a family. I feel deserted when I am pregnant and I can't understand how someone could finish with there pregnant girlfriend and block all forms of communication. Has anyone else been through anything similar?

Sorry op I have no advice but just wanted to say hope you’re ok, must be difficult for you. Take care of yourself xx

So sorry to hear.

I know it's hard but the best thing to do would be to ignore him for now, he will come back.

It's probably his family in his ear telling him all sorts, but if you act like you need him and and will 'do anything to make it work' after he's said all that to you, you will be under his and his family's control forever.

Move in with your parents, see that as your future for now, but I guarantee he's emotionally blackmailing you into taking back things you've said about his family etc

My DH walked out of our marriage a week before I was pregnant. Similar-ish situation in that he overinvolved his family in EVERYTHING and any query about their involvement was me criticizing them . He eventually moved home with them (at 30..) where he plans to live forever.

He said much the same, plan for this baby on my own and he wouldn’t be there for our DS. So I did, and he’s stayed true to his word and never met our son. His loss.

I’d say go home to your parents if you can and pursue child maintenance. My DS is now 4 months old nearly and so worth it. Haven’t talked to STBXH in a couple months. Just collect the maintenance and move on.

Before I discovered I was pregnant, that is**

Hi OP! I’m in a similar position- except we lived together. He just walked out
I was 26 weeks and I’m now 33.
He is now expecting to come round everyday once baby arrives and we have minimal contact- he has no idea the stress he’s caused. To make it more annoying his family are also being hard work- his mum contacted me to ask me for the nursery cot back as she bought it !
Hope you’re okay xxxx