We found out that our baby had died when there was no heartbeat found at the 12 week scan. We had been trying to conceive for almost a year and was so excited when we finally seen a BFP!
I opted to have a D&C as I had a very traumatic birth with my first and only child. I just wanted the process to be over quickly. They took me in 4 days later, I was given general anesthetic and came home later that night. I remained sore for a couple of days with very little bleeding.
Then 4 days later I started to have cramps and started bleeding and loosing small dark red clots. I assumed this was normal. The pain worsened and 3 days after that my husband rushed me to a&e with all I can describe it as is full blown labour pain. I passed out whilst walking to the waiting room and lost very large clots. I was admitted to hospital and told that theee was an infection. I was scanned the next day which showed “products of conception” (hate those words) were still remaining. I was given medication which made me contract through the night in hospital but nothing sufficient was lost. The next day I was examined as the doctor was going to incert more medication inside but she seen tissue at the opening of my cervix. With a long tweezer like instrument she pulled and removed a huge mass of tissue that filled a cup. They assured me this was the problem and sent me home.
My infection markers remained high shown in blood tests and I was still loosing blood clots. My GP requested another scan that showed there was still products remaining. I was sent to theatre for another D&C.
I am very traumatised but what have happened, alongside the greif of losing my baby. Can’t seem to find any positives about the future at the moment. I feel so guilty because I have the most precious little girl and I don’t want to feel like this.
Everyone keeps saying you will go on to have another baby but I really worry that my chances are low, especially as we found it so amhard to conceive without the added pressure of miscarriage again, infection which is said to reduce fertility and two D&C operations that could have caused scar tissue.
If anyone has been through something similar and has some info to share I’d be truly grateful. I’m in such a bad place at the moment. 💔