High risker! 2nd tri loss in Jan. due again april

[Kaceyleahx]

Hi ladies
I just wanted to know if there’s anyone else out there like me I’m 25 and in January this year I lost my son at 20 weeks. I started to leak fluid and dilate slowly at 19 weeks I had an emergency cerclafe at 19+6 went into labour the next day. This was due to an infection that had spread into my uterus. I also contracted sepsis and nearly died. I’m now 12 weeks pregnant and I’m on progesterone pessaries 2x a day which is going to be increased as the pregnancy progresses. I see my baby every two weeks. I am trying to so hard to be okay but the fear of it happening again is completely overwhelming. Has anyone else experienced the same or anything close ? I’d love to here some cyclogest success stories as I’m losing my mind with fear :( !!! Xxxx

Hi, I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't help with the cyclogest side of things, but I also lost a baby at 20 weeks, although in my case we went to the 20 week scan and there was no heartbeat. No reason found.

My next pregnancy was terrifying! This baby had a completely unrelated umbilical cord problem, large NT, growth restriction from 16 weeks, high risk of stillbirth... I just lived scan to scan. It was just hard, and the only thing that made it better was finally holding my baby in my arms. He's 4 months now and a real sweetheart.

I wish there was something to make you feel better, but there's not really. Just be kind to yourself, take each day as it comes, and get through the pregnancy as best you can.

no advice to offer but just wanted to wish you all the luck in the world

Not sure if this is helpful - it happened to someone I know - similar situation to yourself, lost baby at 20 weeks. She was advised when she got pregnant again to have a cervical stitch between 14-16 weeks and then be on bed rest for pretty much the rest of the pregnancy.
I wish you all the best with this pregnancy and hope you need no intervention at all x

Thanks for the replies ladies means a lot I won’t be having a stitch at the consultant doesn’t feel like I have an incompetent cervix. Just the profesterone to strengthen it and protect it further from any kind of infection. I beat myself up so much because he wasn’t poorly at al my body was. That’s what kills me, good luck to you all💙

I’m sorry that you are going through this. It happened to me too. I had a loss at 21+3 when my cervix opened with an infection present. I had a cerclage for my second pregnancy- it didn’t work and I gave birth at 24 weeks but now have a happy and healthy toddler. I don’t want to scare you that it didn’t work for me as it works for the vast majority, I was just unlucky. I was on cyclogest for both pregnancies from the start as they were IVF but had stopped in my first pregnancy at about 14 weeks as directed by IVF clinic (obviously wish now I hadn’t) and carried on throughout for my second pregnancy. Again it didn’t work for me but I’m unusual.

I absolutely understand the anxiety in pregnancy after loss. The best support I had was from the Incompetent Cervix UK Facebook group - these ladies have lived through it and totally get it. Not everyone had a stitch though, some got through on progesterone only. There was also a thread called Short Cervix Club here on Mumsnet, I’m not sure if it’s still active.

I have kept a blog since my loss, throughout my second pregnancy and since. PM me if you would like me to send you the link.

the consultant doesn’t feel like I have an incompetent cervix.

Sorry this makes me angry, the consultant isn’t the one taking the risk of another loss. I had to push push push for the stitch. IC is a hugely misunderstood and minimised condition. In my view it should be treated as IC as IC cannot be objectively proven! And even if you don’t have IC, it’s an extra level of precaution to get you through.

I’m now so scared :( he actually said he didn’t even care for my cervix to be measured because he’s more then happy with that fact it was an infection before that caused it. My waters had started to leak to hence why he knows it was an infection. He’s said the progesterone pessaries will strengthen the cervix and mucus plug and protect it from another infection I’m so scared I don’t even dare be happy, why didn’t you second cerclage work ? Did you have another infection or was it an IC?

IC and infection is a chicken and egg situation - I have seen multiple consultants and they argue about what came first. There is no test for IC so it cannot be confirmed nor ruled out. Sadly this can lead to multiple losses

I really don’t want to worry you but please do join the FB group, I had my hand held the whole way through my second pregnancy. They advised what questions to ask and what I needed to do.

No one has got to the bottom of what is wrong with me. The obstetricians at my local hospital whose care I was under believe it was IC and suggest a different cerclage for any future pregnancy (TAC), which is permanent and has a higher success rate. The obstetrician at the hospital where I delivered my DD (better NNU) thinks it was infection and didn’t fill me with confidence about any future pregnancy, though I do know others in his care that have had a stitch even though he thought it was infection not IC. Personally I can’t go through IVF, high risk pregnancy and neonatal journey again so I’ve decided my family is complete so I’m not pursuing further investigations re IC vs infection.

My waters broke at 27 weeks. Delivered at 28 due to infection in my last pregnancy.

I still had cervical legnth checks with this pregnancy from weeks 14-23. They wasn't expecting to find anything but did it to be on the safe side. I'm also on cyclogest untill 34 weeks. Currently 32 weeks so already further along than last time, now I've made it this far my nerves have settled but it felt like it took forever to get to 24 weeks when the pregnancy was viable and i knew at this point he had a chance if it happened again.

I can understand why you feel the way you do and i really hope you have a long and healthy pregnancy. Xx