40+2 please help 😡😡

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So I'm 40+2 today and I've just been to see my midwife earlier. I don't particularly like her because she is the sort of woman that expects me to know everything and is very dismissive of everything. Today is the first day I had her on her own as it's normally another lovely midwife who is with her who does my examination , measurements and checks heartbeat, in my notes I have been engaged in LOA position since 35 weeks. I can barely walk with SPD pain, I feel my bump has gotten really low and the last midwife appointment I had I asked the lovely midwife was my baby in my pelvis and she said yep she's really in there at the brim, I asked if there's a chance she could come out and she said no that's her ready to come anytime now. So I've been really excited waiting everyday, cleaning my house, everything is ready for her. My best friend is due her baby next week and she's been ringing everyday to see how I am and if baby is on her way. I've been really fed up waiting the past couple of days it's getting me really down with SPD, I went to midwives today and the not so nice midwife was there on her own, she felt my bump and said your baby is ROP position and she's still very high?? She booked me in for an induction for two weeks time, I literally left crying because I'm so fed up and don't understand how I've been 'so close' now everything has changed. Then to make matters worse I got home and my best friend called to say she had just given birth to her baby which wasn't due to next week (I'm so happy for her) but I just feel so deflated and down. Can things really change this much or could she be wrong.

I’m genuinely thought once the head was all the way engaged then that was it - but babies can be monkey and do shift.
However, at 40+2 you midwife is allowed to offer you a membrane sweep to get things going? Did she offer this? If not I would phone up tomorrow and ask to be booked in for one. It can be very uncomfortable with Spd but I’m guessing you’ll try anything to get things moving.
Good luck and I’m sure baby will appear soon.

Hello!

Sorry to hear you're having a miserable time with SPD. It can be really disheartening to feel like the progress has gone "backwards" with baby's positions.

Palpating accurately is a difficult skill to learn and sometimes the findings can be individual. Until and the lovely midwife were right that the head cannot come back out. It maybe that the second midwife's palpating wasn't accurate. Does it feel like the baby is low to you?

Some trusts offer induction sooner for SPD. Maybe try and get in touch with one of the midwives to see if they can arrange something sooner.

Sorry that the midwife hasn't made you feel heard, and hope that you get it sorted soon. xx

If she's booked you in for induction in 2 weeks you still have plenty of time to go into labor naturally. It could just be that they have a lot of overdue ladies at the moment so booking them in is important for scheduling etc.

You're 2 days overdue don't loose your head now, I say that as someone that went 11 days over. It's so hard at the end when everyday feels like a week, the impatience builds and you have the added pain of your SPD. The more stressed you get the less chance you have of going into labor as your body only tends to do this when relaxed for some. I used to just take every day as it came and tried to do something nice for myself each day like a bath, face mask, giant bar of chocolate, book in to get your nails done etc (I had my toenails done 3 days overdue and had lovely bright red toenails which cheered me up when I could actually see my feet).

Try not to think about the possibility of induction, cross that bridge if it comes to it, no point stressing about something that may never happen. Everyone says it but it's true that it's worth the wait so hold onto the excitement and keep picturing that tiny face in your mind, you'll be meeting it pretty soon.

If she's booked you in for induction in 2 weeks you still have plenty of time to go into labor naturally. It could just be that they have a lot of overdue ladies at the moment so booking them in is important for scheduling etc.

You're 2 days overdue don't loose your head now, I say that as someone that went 11 days over. It's so hard at the end when everyday feels like a week, the impatience builds and you have the added pain of your SPD. The more stressed you get the less chance you have of going into labor as your body only tends to do this when relaxed for some. I used to just take every day as it came and tried to do something nice for myself each day like a bath, face mask, giant bar of chocolate, book in to get your nails done etc (I had my toenails done 3 days overdue and had lovely bright red toenails which cheered me up when I could actually see my feet).

Try not to think about the possibility of induction, cross that bridge if it comes to it, no point stressing about something that may never happen. Everyone says it but it's true that it's worth the wait so hold onto the excitement and keep picturing that tiny face in your mind, you'll be meeting it pretty soon.