16 weeks- just as nervous as weeks ago!

[Embobolina88]

I’m 16 weeks after a healthy pregnancy then 2 miscarriages. Had an early scan at 8 weeks and all was well, then 12 weeks all was well then heard the heartbeat at 13. I just can’t get past being really nervous. I’m at the midwife tomorrow so desperate to hear a heartbeat again. I’ve had a horrible cold the last 2 weeks and scared it’s caused something to go wrong. This stage is just awful! No particular bump, no feeling movements... I just don’t feel pregnant! Anyone else feeling this?

Hi OP, I was in your same position only last year. I was pregnant after 2 miscarriages and I don't think I have myself a minute to actually appreciate or enjoy my pregnancy. I did have terrible sickness so when that kicked in I was almost glad that I had a sign but you just have to trust in yourself and your little bean because in not so long you will hopefully be blessed with a beautiful healthy baby. All the best

I remember that bit - no movements yet and the other symptoms had faded, aside from the bump. Here they don't even like listening for heartbeat too early in case they can't get it (it's not always that easy to find). Hope you get some good movement soon, it often happens a bit sooner with subsequent babies

Thanks for the words of support. I kept thinking I was feeling some wiggles last week but I’m certain it was just my tummy. Had a stressful week at work and just didn’t feel great by the end of the week. Probably part of my panic. I was surprised they listened for the heartbeat at 13! But glad she did. Same midwife tomorrow so I’m sure she will again. Im trying to stay positive this time but it’s so hard to believe it’s all going so well!!!!

I was the same at 16 weeks, and that was with a first time normal pregnancy with no complications to speak of so I feel for you. We asked the midwife really nicely if she would listen for the heartbeat at 16 weeks. She explained that there was a chance that she wouldn't be able to find it, and unfortunately if that was the case, there was nothing that she would be able to do, and couldn't sent us anywhere as it is not practice to listen at 16 weeks, but that a lack of heartbeat definitely didn't mean there was an issue and that it was just the case at 16 weeks with not being able to find it. But she had been a midwife for years and was confident she could so she gave it a go, and we heart it for the first time.

Tbh if she hadn't have been able to find it I probably would have been more in an anxious state than I already was unnecessarily, but had that then been the case, I would have paid out for a private scan.

Maybe worth asking your midwife tomorrow if she can listen in, but be prepared for her to say no, and be prepared to have a back up plan to deal with the anxiety if she cannot find a heartbeat x

Hi embobolina88 I'm exactly the same. Mmc last year, I'm now a week behind you at 15 weeks and I've had an awful cold the past 4 days. My sickness went at about 13 weeks, I have no bump and just don't feel pregnant. This is my first so I had no idea if this was normal, but from the responses above and some other forums it does seem to be normal. A lot of people were saying this is where we get our energy back and to enjoy it!

I'm in the 14th week going into 15th and am the same! I've still got some nausea / gas / bloating though so don't feel totally normal but was able to do exercise this morning YAY! Helped a lot since i've missed it. Have the 16 week appointment next week but sort of feel like I'm waiting around for the 20 week scan for updates No bump here either haha oh the joys!

@FirstTimeBumps my midwife listened without me asking when I went to see her at 13 weeks so I’m sure she will this morning.

@Eva30 yes this is where we should start enjoying it now our energy is back! Typical I’ve had this rubbish cold for the past week or so wiping me out again! I’m terrified all the pressure from coughing sneezing and nose blowing has caused damage.

@snoopy18 when is your scan? Mine isn’t until 24 Oct. it feels a lifetime away. I’m hoping I can relax a little more after that one! Though I said that after 12 and I’m still a wreck!

Haha I think it’s going to be an ongoing thing until baby arrives and then it’ll be trying to figure out baby 😂 my next scan is in November assuming all goes well until then 🤞🏾 Good luck with appointment today!

@snoopy18 thanks! And good luck at your November scan!

Yes even when baby’s here you never stop worrying! My little boy is 3 and I’m always finding something new to obsess over- I think I’m just nuts!!!!

It all went fine! Took her ages to find the heartbeat- I was terrified! But then she said- she had heard it already she was just trying to get it clear... phew! Best sound in the world! So to save me going insane she’s told me to go again for another listen in 2 weeks- she’s golden! I wish I could relax!!! X

I’m hoping they do a heartbeat check at 16 week appointment 🤔🤞🏾

I felt the same as you. I know some don't like them but I bought myself a Doppler so I could hear the baby whenever I liked. It took away some of the worry I never had a problem finding dds heartbeat. Really fast compared to our own.

Have you found the fresh start for pregnancies after miscarriage thread OP?

I’m 16 weeks after 5 mcs and know how you’re feeling. We got to hear the hb this week at the midwife appointment and it was amazing. It’s truly the best sound in the entire world. We’ve been having frequent scans as I’m under a consultant due to my history and have still spent most of the pregnancy pretty much shitting myself with the stress of it all.

You’re on solid ground. Nothing is ever 100% certain but at this point your baby is doing so well and you are convincingly pregnant, getting past the 12 week scan is such a milestone. I know it fucking sucks as miscarriage, especially more than one, rob you of the joy and excitement so many people take for granted. I’m not going to tell you to be positive because I don’t think it helps! You feel how you feel and that’s okay.

Hope you get to hear the hb and do pop over to the thread if you want some company. There’s a handful of us at the same stage and it’s great to have people who totally get it to chat to.

Every good wish to you and your baby x

Sorry, missed your update! That’s lovely

@AnneLovesGilbert thank you for your post! It’s always good to know you’re not alone in how you’re feeling. I have seen that group but didn’t like to gatecrash! Can see some of you have been chatting for some time.

I’m already desperate to get to my next midwife appointment! 11 days to go!!!!

@Embobolina88 I can't say I've been through the trauma you have however I know how your feeling with regards to not feeling pregnant I am 19+1 if it hadn't been for the fact I now have a little bump I wouldn't think or feel pregnant at all, I think I felt something yesterday but nothing since, I no longer have any symptoms or any pregnancy feelings. I was walking the dogs this morning and I found myself remembering that I'm pregnant. This is my first pregnancy so I don't know what I should/shouldn't be feeling. I have my sex scan next Friday and in real nervous incase I'm getting bigger for another reason and that my baby isn't there anymore/alive but just hasn't passed if that makes sense. I know how horrid all this is for me to feel so I can't even begin to imagine how your mind goes mad with your previous experiences.
Sending you positive pregnancy vibes and energy for your next midwife app to hear your baby's heart beat again xx

Not at all @Embobolina88 the more the merrier and there are people popping in at al stages of their pregnancies! A few of us were on the ttc after loss thread and have moved between the two when good and bad things happen. It’s so nice to have people to talk to who just instinctively get it, no one worries about tmi or letting off steam or big or small concerns or celebrating the milestones. Honestly, if you want to pop over and see how you feel there please do, always lovely to have others to natter to! I’d just lurk till you have a question or want to comment on what someone else is up to

Hope your next appointment comes round quickly.

@Embobolina88 I remember crying before my 16 week midwife appointment as I was terrified there would be no heartbeat. I lost my first pregnancy at 12 weeks (very unexpected MMC, as I'd had zero symptoms of miscarriage), so was anxious about everything. My nearly ten week old daughter is currently cooing away on her playmat! So glad you got to hear the heartbeat, and that you've been invited back in a couple of weeks. It's the best sound! ❤️

Hi, I’m really glad to hear your stories - it’s so reassuring. I had an MMC at 12 wks in May this year and got pregnant again much sooner than I was expecting... I’m now 15.5 wks and so nervous that something will have gone wrong! There really is no hint as to what’s going on in there which I’m finding really hard. I can’t even quite decide whether I have a small bump or if it’s just chubbiness!! It is good to know that other people are finding the same thing too.