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Terrified of having kids.

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LilithSprout · 24/09/2018 23:59

My husband and I have been together for 5 years and married for three, and in the last year we've been talking about having kids. We looked into adoption, and fostering to adopt but both seem like options that won't work for us so naturally he brought up actually trying to have our own. I always knew I didn't love the idea of birthing kids but it wasn't until recently that I realized I'm absolutely terrified of it. I had a pregnancy scare (that's what I called it, my husband wasn't scared at all lol) maybe a year and a half back and it was the first time in my life I've ever actually felt so scared I was very briefly suicidal all I could think about was how terrible birth would be, it was the worst three days of my life before I took a test. I already have very mild depression and anxiety, and I have a naturally slow metabolism that makes lossing weight almost immposible (I'm being treated for hypothyroidism currently) and I'm finally at a point with in my life where I'm happy with my body. I like what I weigh, I'm in the best health ever, and I'm happy. I'm just scared pregnancy will change all of that. I know we will be great parents, we have a great support system and I'm currently a stay at home wife now so work won't ever be a problem. I just don't know if I can make it through a pregnancy. Can anyone relate? Or has anyone who ever felt this way had kids and can share their experiences?

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aetw · 25/09/2018 09:05

Oh poor you. This isn’t easy is it. You sound like my poor sister in law who was also terrified. Could you try a bit of counselling and some hypnotherapy to try to work out why your so scared of giving birth? Sonethinng has obviously triggered this. It doesn’t sound like you hate or don’t like the idea of kids. I think you need to address this head on and see if you can resolve it, even if that still means you don’t have kids of your own. All the best with it. Xx

dancingbee · 25/09/2018 09:08

If it's any consolation, pregnancy can have a positive effect on hypothyroidism! I am 25 weeks pregnant and my thyroid levels are the best they've ever been. I was shocked but the consultant said this is quite common from the pregnancy hormones. I have felt pretty great so far so I wouldn't worry too much about your thyroid.

dancingbee · 25/09/2018 09:10

It does otherwise sound like managing anxiety may be an issue. Is there anyone you can talk to about it to address the fear?

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