Any men on here who can give me their experiences?

[MissHWKerr]

DP is terrified about me going in to labour. He's worried he won't be able to support me and scared that something terrible will happen. His twin was born stillborn and I think it's been difficult for him to relax during my pregnancy because of this worry in the back of his head.

Any men on here who can offer me and my DP their positive experiences of childbirth?

Of course responses from women more than welcome! Just looking to hear a few positive birth experiences from a man's perspective. Childbirth is scary for us ladies but also want my DP to feel comfortable and not be constantly worried about stillbirth.

Argh should've posted this in childbirth not pregnancy! Will report now.

Are you going to go to antenatal classes? It would definitely be worth him coming along. In my area they also do dads to be classes, which my DP went to and enjoyed. I think learning about the process of birth would be helpful to start. Can he or or has he spoken to his mum about his birth? Does he know the details? Multiple births are always riskier than a single (everything else equal) so it’s important to bear that in mind. I would think plenty of information and asking about things that concern him will help him. My partner didn’t really enjoy labour, mainly because he felt helpless, which I think is common for men. However he made sure I stayed hydrated, which was amazing. Sounds silly but it was nice to just have someone offering me drinks! I didn’t want touched, I was in the zone. I had a straightforward birth but DP knew my birth plan and could advocate for me if needed. I think he was just a bit shell shocked by the experience. It wasn’t what he expected, but it wasn’t negative experience- if that makes sense!