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SUCCESSFUL PREG AFTER 34????

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IsabellaMoltisantixx · 22/09/2018 11:21

They say 35 is the peak I'm dreading it so I have one year more or less to conceive? Until you're classed as high risk pregnancy cos of age???

Anyone tried to conceive at 34 with success??

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Watto1 · 22/09/2018 18:11

I saw this in Active. Didn't notice it was in Infertility. I'm so sorry if I was insensitive in my above post.

Chattycat78 · 22/09/2018 18:38

Agree it needs moving. oP has two children already too. Not suitable for a board where people are struggling.

RockinHippy · 22/09/2018 18:41

Same here, saw it in Active & didn't notice which board it was posting on. Apologies to anyone upset by it.

Since2016 · 22/09/2018 18:42

OP please ask for this to be moved to conception. Infertility isn’t the place for this at all.

Mamabearx4 · 22/09/2018 18:46

Im 37 now with a 15 month old. Got pg after 3 months. My mum had her last at 41.

FingersXssd83 · 22/09/2018 18:48

Agree. As someone who's 35 and been trying 2 years, this is somewhat insensitive in an infertility thread

Herehere66 · 22/09/2018 18:53

How do you know op already has children?

Dia12 · 22/09/2018 18:56

I don’t mean to be rude but really??? Is this post for real?
Since when has it been so unusual for a successful pregnancy after 34! I just think the whole post is not only incredibly ignorant but also insulting, especially in the infertility board.

Yes, doctors do advise on lower chances and increased risk of complications for women over 35 but they also advise to stay out of the midday sun to avoid skin cancer!!!!
I mean some common sense and just a little bit of factual education would have sufficed in place of this post.

brokenharbour · 22/09/2018 18:56

So you've been trying for a few years and not got pregnant, but your other thread from a few days ago says you have a nine month old dd? Me thinks something is not adding up here...

IthinkIsawahairbrushbackthere · 22/09/2018 19:41

I had three babies after the age of 34 - I was 35, 37 and 40. They were all accidental. We were NOT trying and at one point I even got pregnant while on the pill.

Shmithecat · 22/09/2018 19:48

Apologies from me too - again, I went in to this thread from Active x

NewNameDueToMyIdiocy · 22/09/2018 19:49

I'm glad this thread was moved. I don't use the Infertility boards myself, but very insensitive to those that do.

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IsabellaMoltisantixx · 22/09/2018 19:57

Not understanding why it should be moved? If you read my thread(s) I have fertility issues, hence why I mentioned age cos I'm getting more and more worried about conceiving period never mind contending with age

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IsabellaMoltisantixx · 22/09/2018 19:59

So there's no such thing as SECONDARY INFERTILITY or TERTIARY INFERTILITY?

I'm confused with peoples responses on here, I don't think they got the gist of my post at all,

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Since2016 · 22/09/2018 20:03

Of course there is OP - but generally the infertility boards here are for people with long term infertility. If you already have a v young baby then while I appreciate your concerns re age etc... it’s not really a discussion for the infertility boards.

Put it like this - I’m now pregnant with my second following clomid treatment and 18 months of trying. I wouldn’t have been posting on the infertility boards when I had just started to trying for my second for reassurance it wouldn’t be an issue.

Harleypuppy · 22/09/2018 20:06

My grandma in the 40s, so no fancy vitamins or fertility treatments got of with my mum at age 45.
Dh's friend's wife got pg at 47, naturally after a decade of secondary infertility after a eptopic pg.

brokenharbour · 22/09/2018 20:10

If you have a 9month old you must have been trying for at the most 6 months? There are numerous posts about your nine month old and on/off dp who you think is cheating. But you've said in a previous post you've been trying for years which doesn't add up. And not getting pregnant in six months does not make you infertile. It's quite ignorant to exaggerate your circumstances to give the impression you're infertile when you're clearly not. And you're persisting with it which is totally insensitive to people who are genuinely struggling with infertility. Is that any clearer?

PatriciaHolm · 22/09/2018 20:14

You are in abusive relationship, so much so that SS have advised you leave for the sake of the kids, and have 2 children including an under 1.

With the greatest of respect, worrying about another baby is absolutely the last thing you should be doing right now.

Watto1 · 22/09/2018 20:15

Ummmm, it's my post at the beginning of page 2. I didn't ask for it to be removed?!? As I said, I didn't mean to be insensitive but I didn't ask for it to be removed.

yellowplumpreserves · 22/09/2018 20:18

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IsabellaMoltisantixx · 22/09/2018 20:25

Yes first one conceived when Young accidentally but then didn't conceive thereafter for TEN years!!! In that time I was on/off with my partner, so in total let's say 7 years I tried with no avail,
Had every test possible, paid a fortune to get tests privately again n again like the CD21 test as results were up n down each month, had the HSG twice one nhs one private
Only when a work colleague mentioned endometriosis I waited 7 months on NHS to have a laparoscopy n lo and behold they found endo
After that I STILL didn't conceive was given clomid then told if it clomid didn't work I would have very little chance to conceive as my FSH result was very low, thankfully after a painful few months on clomid conceived yet had horrendous pregnancy full on pain- consultant said it would be hard to conceive again because of scar tissue they had seen
Hence why I haven't been on contraception since having dd as I'm taking every chance I can to have another so I think I still class as 'infertile' when I had to go on fertility drugs and will have to again according to consultant after Christmas

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IsabellaMoltisantixx · 22/09/2018 20:29

The original post was written in a rush, to make it clearer I'm ttc after being told it would be very difficult because of the scar tissue they had seen after lap, also consultant didn't think I was able to ovulate along with very low FSH result

So of course, AGE would play a factor in conceiving, I asked this because I have low chances anyway so age is obviously going to be another Inhibitor. With the result I had for FSH was a similar result to a 40 plus old would have according to consultant so every year my chances are decreasing I was EXTREMELY lucky to conceive youngest DD but after the journey I've had I am hoping to have another close age because I don't think there'll be any chance later

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SparkyBlue · 22/09/2018 20:32

I had my first baby at 36 my second at 39 and now at 42 I am currently pregnant with a surprise baby

brokenharbour · 22/09/2018 20:36

Ok, so to be honest your age is pretty irrelevant compared to all the other factors you've mentioned. I wouldn't focus on it. And you're not classed as high risk over 35 by the way.

CatboySpeed · 22/09/2018 20:58

Why are you trying to have another baby with your abusive on/off partner who your SW has told you not to live with?

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