Is this normal when expecting your second?

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Hi all,

Long time lurker but first time poster..
I’m pregnant with my second child and I’m just feeling a bit down really... I’m around 15 weeks but I forget to take my vitamin daily, pick up things I really shouldn’t as I don’t have time to skirt around it, never rest because I’m housework, work, dinner, sleep on repeat after dropping my first at nursery... I’m not applying bio oil religiously like my first so I’m probably going to get horrific stretch marks, and I don’t really feel pregnant as a result...
I kind of feel like I can’t enjoy being pregnant as I literally don’t have time to think about it.. I don’t really know what I’m expecting but is this how everyone else felt whilst being pregnant with their second?
I feel like I’m letting my baby down, when I was pregnant with my first I ate really well and this time I get home so late I stick to ready meals half the time as I’m just so tired from daily life I don’t have the energy.
God knows how I’m going to be when he/she is here!!
I feel a bit useless

I should add, I do have a DH who does as much as he can but his job is full time also and he is out of the house earlier and back even later than I am!

I’m expecting DC2 and much the same. Just too busy and tired to focus on the pregnancy. I’m 37+5 and still pretty focused on DD and how thing stressful affect her. I’m not worried about the baby, I know it will be loved. Just to busy to daydream about life once they arrive!
Oh and I don’t use bio oil and didn’t with DD either. I did have stretch marks with DD, absolutely none so far with DC2.

I have 3ds. Fell pregnant with ds2 when ds1 was only 9 months old I don't remember my second pregnancy at all

The bio oil won't make a difference to stretch marks, you either get them or you don't. It's genetic.

The baby can't tell the difference between a homemade lasagne or a ready made one from Tesco. It will take what it needs from you regardless of what you eat.

You will feel far more pregnant this time round in a few months time when you are chasing round after a preschooler with a bump, I promise .

I'm exactly the same, most days I even forget I'm pregnant. It's only when I get an app notification saying I'm now 15 weeks, that I remember. Lol!

DC1 is only 9 months old, so I'm far too busy to even think about anything else but her.

I did take my first bump picture last week, as I thought when DC2 gets older, they may wonder why I've got loads of these sorts of pictures with DC1, but none of them! Lol xx

Kind of. But I actually enjoyed it much more in the end because I realised I didn't need to be as precious about things as I had been with my first, and my baby was thriving and growing just fine despite me not luxuriating in bio oil and long lies.

You are not letting your baby down and you are not useless. This baby is still loved and wanted. It's fine not to use bio oil, to eat ready meals And it's fine to pick things up! And when you think about it, how much detail do you know about your mum's pregnancy anyway? I'm the youngest of 4, I'm pretty sure my mum can't even remember being pregnant with me!

I don't really enjoy pregnancy so I'm quite glad it is going quicker this time as less time to think about it. I do feel more detached this time but am 19 weeks now and starting to feel movement, which is helping it to feel more real.

I’m 26 weeks pregnant with my third with a 4 and a 3 year old and until someone mentions it I completely forget I’m pregnant to be honest! I don’t do anything specifically pregnancy related bar taking iron tablets as my levels are really low. I’m sure this one will turn out fine! I don’t think I’m
harming him by not doing pregnancy yoga or making sure all my meals are balanced and cooked from scratch.

Yep!! I'm feeling a bit more of a connection to the pregnancy now I'm getting movement regularly, as it kind of reminds me to stop and think about it... but life is so much busier (and fuller!) than before we had DC1 that it's flying by and kind of passing me by in the process. I have been feeling very unwell and my house is a tip as a result too.

Bio oil won't stop you getting stretch marks! Although... how old is your little one? My 2 y.o. loves helping to put moisturiser on my bump "for baby". We use the same one so we do mine at the same time and make it a game.

Your diet isn't worth stressing about. Eating enough calories is the main thing, where they come from makes little difference (if any!) to baby. Although obviously eating well will be a benefit to you, but I can totally relate to just not having the energy / time as that's me 99% of the time right now.

Give yourself a break! xxx

You are doing fine, that's how its meant to be. Maybe set a reminder to take your vitamins and get your iron levels checked if you are completely exhausted but your body knows what it is doing - trust it.

Thanks all... this makes me feel a little better! It’s crazy how life just takes over sometimes. Before I know it we’ll be a family of 4!! Thanks for all your advice. My eldest is 3 so we are keeping them involved as much as possible so that they get used to the idea of a sibling!
Hopefully once I start to feel movement and get a bit more of a bump it will all start feeling a bit more real!
Thanks ladies xx