I'm 17 weeks pregnant with my first baby and at my last midwife appointment, she asked if she could refer me to the "Early Start Programme" due to me having had anxiety in the past. This was a bad year I had around 4 years ago. It lasted around a year and I dealt with it well and have been fine ever since.
I said yes as she didn't really explain any more about it, thinking any extra support must be a good thing, and went on my way.
I googled the service a few days later and was horrified that my midwife had lumped me in with the other types of people the service helps. The website describes the service as an early intervention programme for vulnerable first time parents, who's difficulties include severe mental health problems, substance misuse problems, learning difficulties, homelessness and teenage pregnancy.
DP thinks I'm being a snob for being offended by this, but I was so upset. This baby was planned, I'm 28, he's 30. We so wanted this baby. We have a lovely home together, really good family and friends around us and we just generally live a boring, normal, happy life!
The woman I've been referred to has left lots of messages on my voicemail asking me to call her back. I can't pick up as she rings me during work hours and I can only use my phone at lunch. I haven't rang her back yet as I'm just so embarrassed that my midwife sees me as someone that I'm really not.
Should I say something at my next midwife appointment? Is my DP right? Am I being a snob?