Attempts at sex in week 34

[bella1426]

Sitting in bed crying my eyes out. DP gone to his own room (We're sleeping separately at the moment due to snoring/pregnancy restlessness issues) we've gone from having a pretty regular once a week lovely shag to nothing in the last few weeks, I instigated tonight but just couldn't continue. Feel too big and unattractive at the moment and just can't get into it. Really feeling the lack of physical closeness but my body doesn't feel like my own at the moment. I keep telling myself we will get it back after baby/losing some weight but it's just gotten to me tonight. Probably the bloody hormones! Anyone else in this boat or have come out the other side again to a decent sex life? Feeling really lonely, it just ended really awkwardly and he's probably feeling rejected and shit too:(

Aw poor you! I'm 38 weeks and still having sex around once a week... but it's awkward and clumsy! I know it's just not the same as it used to be but it's a different type of sex. Not long to go at least! Try massaging each other or something like that to reinitiate the closeness and put less pressure on actual sex- this morning for instance I just couldn't get into a comfortable enough position so we did 'other' stuff instead - your oh should understand!

That was the same with me and my partner, it was to uncomfortable and I didn’t feel sexy. But we did other stuff instead of sex which still kept us close. I did talk to my partner about how I felt about it all and understood. I just treated him to stuff ;)
But don’t beat yourself up about it, you havnt got long to go.

Were just not good at talking about stuff like this, well we've never needed to it all flowed quite smoothly before. The last couple of times he hasn't been as hard as usual (excuse the TMI) and it's made me really paranoid about my attractiveness to him. It's all just very physically and emotionally awkward. I feel like just don't even want to try any more but hate the thoughts of letting things slide for that long...

While pregnant me and dh didnt gave sex very often as i was too big etc etc baby is now nearly 7 weeks old and we started having sex again this weekend and we've done it twice so there is a light at the end even though its different for everyone but you will get there!! Could you maybe even just cuddle in the meantime?

Hi, 34 weeks here too and haven't had sex in 4 or 5 weeks. This is my 3rd pregnancy though and I've been the same every time. It's not that I feel too big etc although there is a bit of that, I just have zero sex drive when pregnant. Even the thought of massage or anything else makes me cringe. I do try about once a week but last few weeks have been bit chaotic with other stuff going on. When I do initiate I just want sex..done and dusted as basically I don't get any enjoyment out of it at all.

I'm the same post pregnancy while breastfeeding. The first time around I was really freaked out by it as I generally have a high sex drive. Happy to report that both times things returned to normal after finishing breastfeeding so I know now it's just a hormonal thing for me. I have now just said to dh exactly how it is and thankfully he is understanding (I hope!!). Doesn't complain anyway. Told him he is well capable of sorting himself out! I do miss the closeness and sometime feel like housemates rather than a couple but he is my best friend and a fab dad and dh. Looking forward to getting back to normal in a few mths though.

He's not a massively cuddly person unless it's leading somewhere! With the separate bedrooms were not really having any bed cuddles either. There's been times he's come into my room but I can't stay in bed long as back pain has me in and out of the bed every flipping 30 minutes for a stretch. Can't even get into a snog as stupid nasal congestion means I can't breathe and kiss at the same time! (Also a bit of a barrier to doing other stuff "to him" if ya get my meaning) just all stupid physical ailments, it ended so awkwardly tonight though and left me feeling really shit/annoyed at myself and us for not being able to just have a laugh at it or discuss it

That's reassuring to hear dontquit. Missing my sex drive and hoping it comes back! Just do NOT feel like myself when pregnant

Hi Bella I hope it makes you feel better to know I’m also in separate bedrooms from DP due to snoring/needing more space and we haven’t had sex for ages either! I’m 38 weeks now and I literally can’t remember how long it’s been - maybe 2 months or longer?! Too uncomfortable for me and he’s put off by worrying he might poke baby in the head :/ Our last attempt also ended awkwardly cause I was up for it but ended up being so uncomfortable. So you are absolutely not alone and there’s every reason you’ll be completely fine and back to it in a few months time.

I cope by making jokes to DP like how I hope he won’t “friend zone” me if it’s too long before our next shag. Have you thought about making a joke about it to get the conversation going? Or maybe writing him a note to say how you feel if it’s too awkward to have a conversation to start with? Good luck!

We stopped at 35 weeks- I was massive, had bad sciatica all down left side and lots of other issues which just made it too uncomfortable.

I’m 39+3 and found the best way Is for me to lay on a side and put my leg up,we’ve done it this morning to be fair but mainly to get things moving 🙈🙈 if the bump is putting him off he can’t see it either with this position. Xx

To make you feel better...you’re definitely not the only one. Me and hubby are in separate rooms. I can’t get comfy and I’ve started snoring (I can’t sleep because I wake myself up snoring!!).

We didn’t have sex for months because my hubby was worried about it. Then he suddenly got into it again about a month ago after reading it’s ok! I’m 33 weeks now and we haven’t done it for a few weeks because i feel yuk and my joints hurt.

My hubby is the same is that he views cuddles etc as a lead on for sex, so we’re not particularly intimate in other ways!

I try to deal with it with some self deprecating humour at how gross I look.
Anyway, the fact we had a drought and then a bit of a monsoon is leaving me feeling better about it all working out in the end.

I can see why you feel this way Op, it's a shame he doesn't cuddle as I was gunna say there are other ways to be intimate, I m 36 weeks and feel like a beached Whale when I m lying on my back, I have sex everyday still but I usually go bent over so bump doesn't get in the way, I would recommend a pillow under Bump as it van get sore if it's not supported, this works if your man is a an ass man ( sorry for bluntness)
Maybe try just watching a movie and cuddling and just have a little play. See if that leads to anything x

An ass man