Would you...?

[Daffodils78]

I have just broken up with my kids Dad long story short financial abuse DV Etc. I took a pregnancy test as a precaution yesterday and it's a strong positive. Would you keep the baby? I have never had a termination or considered one but with a baby an older child and studying I don't know if I'll manage alone with hypermesis and SPD. I know I could be a single mum to three but pregnancy scares me as I was so ill last time. WWYD? Panicking right now. I haven't taken my pain meds or cod liver oil since I did the test, but I recently started smoking cigarettes again and am on an antidepressant so know it might hurt the baby?

I would terminate as I would not want this man to have more links with me or use the pregnancy in any way to control the situation.

Good luck with your decision (which doesn't have to agree with what I've suggested - I have never considered a termination personally). Of course I hope other people comment and that you can continue to use this thread for support. I also hope you have real life support in such a stressful time.

Lots of pregnant ladies are on anti depressants (me included) and it sounds like now wouldn't be a good time to stop them. In terms of the baby? You have some time to think about what you want. @physicskate makes a good point but if you do decide you WANT to keep the baby you should keep it. No judgement from me either way. And you sound very brave. X

In one way I think a baby could be used by him to control me etc. but I love my kids so much and don't know how I'd deal with a termination. Both my children were unplanned miracles but the best things that have ever happened to me. I can't change their Dad but I equally don't want to be selfish and keep the baby just because of my feelings about terminations. I want to give them the best life and feel so conflicted. I know leaving him was the right thing and will never go back to him. And I don't want to spend the rest of my life fighting him in family court. Equally I know I could raise them but my youngest is still a baby and pregnancy is hard especially with HG and SPD. I know I have enough love to give another child and I know I could find a way financially etc. it's just a lot to be dealing with I think. Maybe that I'm even questioning it gives me my answer? If I knew It was a no then I would terminate, but that I am thinking about it makes me think I'd regret that decision. I have looked at my ADs and they can be taken during pregnancy, and I know I can quit smoking again, as I have in the past. It's just a lot of change.

I wouldn't terminate because I know I would forever regret my decision if I did but no one else can tell you how you will feel OP only you will know that. People can come and tell you their experiences but ultimately it is you who will have to live with whatever decision you make. Good luck, sorry you are in this position.