Scared of missed miscarriage

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Hello everyone

I am 12 weeks tomorrow and our first scan is on Monday. I was so excited but as it gets closer I'm starting to worry that it won't be good news. From about 5-10 weeks I felt nauseous (but was never actually sick), my boobs were agony, I was exhausted and really hungry. However now most of those symptoms have gone away and I feel normal. My boobs are still a bit sore but nowhere near as bad, and I'm not sick at all. Still seem to be losing hardly any hair when I brush, and I've had zero cramps or spotting. It still sometimes hurts my tummy when I sneeze. But I'm really concerned that those symptoms are tiny and the main ones have vanished. This is my first pregnancy and although a surprise we are now so happy about it, I'm terrified to go on Monday for the scan in case there's something wrong. I know my mum had lots of miscarriages before she had me. I just don't know how to wait another 3 days to know for sure. Any advice or insight very much appreciated x

While nothing but a scan can guarantee that you've not had a MMC, please be reassured that it is very normal for symptoms to go after 10 weeks. That's when the placenta takes over and makes life a lot easier for most people.

Personally I had a MMC and had all the pregnancy symptoms right up to my scan, then a successful pregnancy with all the symptoms, then a successful pregnancy with absolutely zero symptoms whatsoever. No nausea, nothing. So it doesn't mean much at all.

Good luck for your scan, hopefully you have a busy weekend planned

@SodTheBloodyLotOfThem thank you so much, didn't know that about the placenta (trying not to google too much and scare myself) but that is a very logical reason. Thank you loads

My first pregnancy, I hit 13 weeks and felt better pretty much over night, like a switch had been flicked. Very weird.

This time around (I’m 12+2, also have my first scan on Monday!), I’ve felt so much worse and have been far more worried after some early bleeding that wasn’t enough for them to send me for a scan.

I felt awful all weekend and for the early part of the week, then woke up yesterday feeling a million times better. Long may it continue.

Pregnancy can be horribly stressful. Roll on Monday, right?

Hi OP another one here waiting for their first scan on Monday.

Seems like the nerves are completely normal. I too have been worrying about all sorts, missed miscarriage, something wrong with baby, if the baby is even there at all

Most of the time these worries will be unfounded. I think we all need to remind ourselves that while bad things do happen, the majority of pregnancies run smoothly and in most cases baby arrives absolutely fine.

I still have symptoms at the moment, but have been told by people that it tends to calm down ready for the second trimester and you start to feel better with more energy, don’t know how true that is but I’m hopeful for it, yours sounds normal.

Hope your scan goes well. If you have somebody supportive around you, talking to them about your fears can help a surprising amount, I know I have been talking my partners ear off the last couple of days but it helps to have a voice there putting those worries into perspective.

Hi ladies, 12 weeks today and scan on Monday as well.

My symptoms went about three days ago and am trying not to freak out! Keep telling myself that the placenta is in charge now so I'll have bags of energy and won't need a nap every hour!

I don't remember it being like this with my four year old 🙈

Good luck to us all for Monday xx

Wishing you all the best of luck.

I'm currently 7 weeks and having an early scan on Monday as well. I've had two miscarriages and one successful pregnancy so am also anxious.

Wishing the time away! My plan is to keep busy over the weekend.

Thank you everyone, you're all very reassuring and kind. Fingers crossed for everyone! And if nothing else it helps to know I'm not crazy having these thoughts alone xxx

All the best today. I had my scan and thankfully it went well x

All the best for your scan today OP, I had every ridiculous worry a new one every week the daftest being obsessively googling HIV as I was convinced my bloods would come back that I had it. I was even considering refusing the bloods which is awful!

I think it was after the 20 week scan I managed to relax and when he started kicking I loved it a constant reminder he was really there!

Again good luck today

Thank you everyone, was lovely to get your well wishes this morning while I was fairly hysterical! All went well, there's really and truly a baby in there with a heartbeat, just amazing! Feel so much better. Good luck to everyone xxxxx

So happy for you that all is well. Congratulations!

Yay! All good here too, I have a real wriggler this time.