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Advice needed please- No judgement

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MollyM30 · 12/09/2018 19:40

Ok so this is a bit long winded...please no judgement. I had an abortion in July (for very personal reasons...it was just not feasible to continue with the pregnancy). I was 6 weeks when I had the procedure. I tested negative around 4 weeks later. On the 23rd August I had my AF. Had sex on the last day of my period which was the 27th. Started pill on the same day. Had a bleed 4 days later which I assumed was side effects of the pill. Fast forward to the 10th september and after feeling nauseous and a bit out of sorts I took a test....honestly didnt expect anything but had a BFP....took a CBD and it showed I was 2-3 weeks. Took another 2 CBDs today...both showing 3+. The whole thing is mind boggling as I'm pretty sure I conceived on the 27th (last day of my period).... but is this possible? And if so, why did I bleed 5 days later? Sorry for being so long winded but I'm so confused and worried. Feel like I cant go to my GP as feel so ashamed about the termination. For anyone wondering, this pregnancy was very much unplanned, but very much wanted

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LucyLou19 · 12/09/2018 20:02

You had an abortion in July and now 6 weeks later your pregnant again and want this one?

MrMeSeeks · 12/09/2018 20:03

If you first started taking the pill and had sex on the same day then if you didnt use anything else then you weren’t protected.

Bumdishcloths · 12/09/2018 20:04

I think you need to own your decisions and just go to the GP to be honest.

trulybadlydeeply · 12/09/2018 20:08

It would be unusual, but not impossible to conceive on the last day of your period. Sperm can survive for several days, as well. Do not be ashamed to go to your GP, you will need support, also possibly to consider if you definitely want to go ahead with this pregnancy. I am not judging you at all, but wondering what could have changed in just 6 weeks, and I hope you are not being pressured into continuing with this pregnancy. Take care.

Iwantaunicorn · 12/09/2018 20:09

I’d go to your gp, head held high. Good luck!

Russell19 · 12/09/2018 20:09

How can things change in 6 weeks? Also you had sex unprotected.... you're surprised? Sperm can last up to a week

holasoydora · 12/09/2018 20:11

Why are you ashamed about the termination? Whatever your reasons were they were valid. You don't have to go to your GP if you want to carry on with the pregnancy nor if you want to terminate again (you can self refer to BPAS). Your Midwife will not pass judgement. They have seen it all so don't worry about their reaction to you becoming pregnant again quickly. All that matters is what you want to do now.

frenchfancy · 12/09/2018 20:20

Surely it doesn't take much imagination to work out why one pregnancy would not be wanted but another 6 weeks later would be so please don't be horrible to the OP.

If you don't want to go to your GP then go to the family planning clinic. They will help you and won't judge. Good luck.

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MollyM30 · 12/09/2018 20:21

For those who are wondering why this pregnancy is different... I previously got pregnant after a night out in June. Was EXTREMELY drunk and was completely unaware I had sex until the next day. Took the MAP and still managed to conceive. The person who I had slept with was an ex partner who was extremely abusive. Not that its really anyones business but just wanted to clear that up.

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trippingoverrainbows · 12/09/2018 20:23

@MollyM30 you don't need to justify yourself to anyone. Be kind to yourself 💕

holasoydora · 12/09/2018 20:27

I agree, no need to justify OP. Even if you had simply changed your mind about being ready it is nobody's business but yours.

GorgonLondon · 12/09/2018 20:31

I would presume from the OP that the two pregnancies are by two different men and that's why she wants this one and not the previous one...

I could be wrong.

GorgonLondon · 12/09/2018 20:31

Cross-posted with OP, obviously.

loveskaka · 12/09/2018 20:33

Probably implantation bleeding. X

VanillaBeans · 12/09/2018 20:36

I don’t know why people are clutching their pearls. It was pretty obvious why the OP would feel so drastically different about 2 different pregnancies.

OP dear, what are you asking? sorry if I missed it :)

If the pregnancy is wanted and you want to keep the baby, then just go to your GP and start your antenatal care. It’s not difficult to understand your different circumstances so please don’t be ashamed, they are there to support you.

Start planning for your future, taking into consideration your financial stability and housing. Good luck!

hoppipopla · 12/09/2018 20:41

Quite often you don't need to see your GP as home pregnancy tests are so accurate. My surgery no longer have GPS confirm pregnancies.
You may be able to just contact your community midwife and get your booking in appointment arranged.

But I agree with PPs, hold your head high and don't feel you need to justify yourself to us anonymous internet people. Best of luck with your pregnancy.

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MollyM30 · 12/09/2018 20:43

Sorry, I wasn't very clear at all about what I was actually asking. Went into a bit of a ramble. I'm wondering why I was bleeding four days after I had sex. In hindsight it may have been implantation, but just seems a bit soon? Also the fact that I'm currently showing 3+ on the CBD even though I would be only 2weeks+3days is throwing me a little. I know the post is quite confusing

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loveskaka · 12/09/2018 20:46

It may just be a coincidence that u bleed after sex and that u are actually further on, it it could have something to do with the pregnancy. Better going to ur go. Think of urself and baby, dnt worry about others x

Hogtini · 12/09/2018 20:47

You don't have to go to GP. You can go straight to BPAS/Marie Stopes if you need to discuss your options

MyMumDimensionJumps · 12/09/2018 20:48

It's nobody's business why you have changed your mind. Plenty of people have terminations and feel terrible afterwards and decide they won't make that choice again. Having a baby with an abusive partner can really exacerbate their behaviour and bring back traumatic memories, so it's understandable if you did not want to continue.

As posted before by someone else, look up self-referral to antenatal care on your local maternity hospital's website. Chances are, you don't need to see your GP. It isn't their business why you wanted to terminate your last pregnancy, and if they do ask, just say you don't wish to discuss it and they won't ask further questions.

Good luck, and hope all goes well for you

Yourcupwillneverempty · 12/09/2018 21:02

You weren't protected by starting the pill (assuming combined, not 'mini' or pop) on the last day of your period anyway, you are supposed to start on the first day and are protected from that day but only because it's assumed your period starts, you take it and by the end of your period which they allow 5 days for your pill protection has built up sufficiently to stop you getting pregnant when you next ovulate which is assumed at 7-14 days after period has finished. You can get pregnant during your period but it's very unusual. If you start on any day other than first day of period you are supposed to use other methods of contraception for 7 days to allow the pill to work (by thinning your womb lining and thickening cervical mucous etc). See your GP, if you are worried about dates not adding up and potentially having had a false negative after your abortion they should refer you to the epu as a matter of urgency.
Your reasons for having an abortion and whether you would keep or terminate this or any other pregnancy are your own, your right and your decision and yours only.

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MollyM30 · 12/09/2018 21:17

Thank you everyone so much for supportive comments. This is definitely not a continuation of previous pregnancy as I had a scan to confirm my womb was clear about 3 weeks after the termination, plus I had a number of negative pregnancy tests. Im nearly 100% sure I conceived on the fourth after after starting AF. I must have a short cycle. The whole situation is a bit bizarre but it is what it is. Im excited but just worried that something may go wrong, particularly after bleeding post conception as it was rather heavy

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MagicalCreatures · 12/09/2018 21:27

If I were you, book an early scan, whether private or at your local EPU, and double check how far along you are. The CB digital 3+ weeks is very confusing but you could just have a fast rising HCG.
But I would want to be sure you didn’t get a false negative after your termination.
Then when you know, if you want this baby, do not feel guilty or ashamed about the termination and look forward to the rest of your life with your little one.
Hope it all works out for you x x

MagicalCreatures · 12/09/2018 21:29

Sorry OP - cross post
Well then congratulations on your new pregnancy and maybe it twins 😁
Don’t worry about what people might think. Xx

Yourcupwillneverempty · 12/09/2018 21:32

Oh sorry, I misunderstood your concern about being 3+ weeks on the tests.

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