Mother in Law

[katie23913]

Is anybody else having trouble with the mother in law? I'm almost 20 weeks pregnant and she is driving me up the wall. All I hear is 'you want to do this' or 'you need to do this'. She's already had to be spoken to because of her attitude and it worked for a while but it seems to be sliding again now.

I don't want to fall out, I can do without that stress. The worst thing is she knows a what she is doing because she's already told me I might have to put her in her place when the baby is born but I don't want to have to do that. If she knows what she's doing why can't she just stop without having to be told. I hate going to their house.

She's making her own nursery and has got more baby stuff for her house than we have for ours. You would think it was them having a baby not us.

I can tell she's going to be unbearable when the baby is born.

Any tips please?

Nodding and smiling worked for me. And remaining non-committal when asked leading questions.

My mil did this the whole time I was pregnant first time too. Then got offended when none of ‘her’ things for the baby ever got used! I would be very rude and firm with her, but I learned the hard way to start as you mean to go on.

She is making her own nursery? Are you being serious? Omg!!!
I thought I had it bad. My MIL had already named our baby with a name I don’t like and announced, “well it doesn’t matter what you call her, I will always call her X” That pissed me off!

I think maybe you need to suggest to her that while you can see that she is very excited, it’s inportant for you and the baby to be calm at the moment and that her “suggestions” are making you feel rather stressed out. You could also say “I sure that you will appreciate that I want to find my own way of experiencing and enjoying my own pregnancy and baby, just like you must have with X (insert husbands name)”
Was she like this with your wedding? X

We're not married. Mother in law is just a nicer phrase of what I would really like to call her haha this in fact is one of the reasons I don't want to get married because I can't cope with her interfering.

The thing is it would be nice for her to be very involved but all she's doing is making me push her away. My mum has been really good and just left us to it because she can see how annoyed I am getting.

My mum said maybe she is jealous because I'm a very independent person and she may think I've taken her son away from her. My boyfriend didn't used to be independent but almost 10 years with me and I have made him grow up haha and I don't think she likes that we can look after ourselves and know our own minds.

She wanted us to pick an Irish name for the baby because her mum and dad were Irish which really annoyed me it has nothing to do with her what we name him. They seem to forget that the baby has 2 sets of grandparents.

Mil 🙈 shudder! Mine sounds pretty similar to yours. We told her our DDs name and she told us she didn’t like it and will call her Rachel (this was after she was born!!)

She now complains she doesn’t see enough of her grandchild, even though she doesn’t visit. Take a deep breath and let DH deal with her, at least this is what I do 🤣