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Anyone else dreading maternity leave?

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surreygirl1987 · 09/09/2018 21:13

I feel so stupid but I'm really dreading maternity leave. I love my job and am something of a workaholic- at least, I get a lot of satisfaction out of it and my work is a big part of my identity. I hate sitting around all day even for one day at the weekend so I don't know how I'm going to cope with 10 months off! I know I should be looking forward to it but all I can see is an endless series or boring empty blank days stretching ahead and I know it will feel so isolating. DH is wonderful but works long hours including some weekends. I don't know that many people near me as moved here a few months ago.

I've joined the 'Mush' app and have done NCT and met some nice people... and I definitely intend to go to as many baby classes as I can afford as well as exercise classes (local gym has a creche). I'm also doing a part time uni course (distance leanring). But there are only so many classes and coffee meet-ups you can do and I can totally see me getting bored and lonely and hating it.

I really don't want to end up resenting the baby. Does anyone have any tips or advice? Perhaps people who have had maternity leave before with previous children.... how did you cope with it???

Many thanks. Re-reading it I sound so stupid and I've told my husband how I feel and he thinks I'm mad (he'd love not to work for 10 months and never gets bored; sadly shared leave isn't an option as he's just started a new job) but I'd really love some tips and advice so I don't go too crazy!

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villainousbroodmare · 27/09/2018 18:01

I have to go back on Monday after 4 months, as maternity benefit here is minuscule. Just as the babies are getting to be fun, dammit!

AhYeahOkayThen · 27/09/2018 18:37

I have found most of my maternity leave boring so far, which surprised me since I rarely feel bored. I'm almost 6 months in. Most of my maternity leave has been plagued with depression, exhaustion, and anxiety plus the monotony of doing the same stuff over and over.

It's good if you can make yourself go out to groups early on, I didn't because of not sure what to call it, post partum anxiety...I guess. I really regret it now.

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