Am I just pregnant or am I genuinely falling out of love with DH

[Yellowcar107]

This is my second pregnancy, first went smoothly and we had a lot of help during it. We lived with my mother at the time.

This time we have our own house and a 2 1/2 year old DD.

My DH suffers with insomnia sometimes and this has happened on and off since I met him. His father is the same.

I'm 28 weeks pregnant, exhausted and not sleeping well. My DH never wakes up in the morning, he falls to sleep around 4am and wakes up around 12-1pm. I am exhausted in the mornings with DD and having no help is starting to really get on my nerves.

I have spoken to him on so many occasions about this and he just either dismisses me or just says I am moaning again.

He is so absent from childcare in the morning and it is starting to make me hate him. I don't know what to do.

Is this just my pregnancy hormones making me more angry or how should I tackle this? I have loved DH we have a lovely life together, especially before this pregnancy.

Sorry for going on, just low right now and don't know what to do.

Is this every day or just the weekends? If weekends I suggest you have a lie-in each, share the days so each of you has a lie in once a week.

If every day, you have bigger problems. Does he work?

This is happening every day for the past 2 weeks.

DH has just lost his job this hasn't happened before so I am guessing he is upset about it like I am. I am a contractor and my contract just ended and him loosing his job hasn't helped. This started to happen more since he lost his job. We have money backed up from contract but we are both stressed about it.

I am just tired of having the same conversation with him about being there in the morning with our DD. I feel like I am being unreasonable and pregnant. But then I feel like he is.

I'm just confused right now

My dp does this ! I just leave him with baby in the afternoons and nap.
Might be a solution depending on your work scehule.? I used to leave him from four pm onwards to deal with everything going and had a lovely nap

I think that very selfish. That is not insomnia, it’s a bad sleeping pattern! I’m speaking as someone who was recently a student and struggled to sleep before 4am and woke in the afternoons. As soon as I had structure that forced me up early my sleep improved. I would arrange to meet a friend/ go food shopping/ get out in the mornings and leave the toddler on the bed with dh. He won’t have a choice but to get his arse into gear then!

What is he doing til 4 in the morning?

I think he should be taking steps to try and solve this issue. Has he been to the Drs? Has he tried anythung? Sounds like he's just expecting you to deal with it which is incredibly selfish

As soon as he is up, get yourself off to bed and leave dc1 with him.

Does he game til 4am?

Go and get him some Nytol two a night over the counter and insist he takes them at around 9.30/10pm. They will work and he will be able to get up with your DD in the mornings and it will force his sleeping patterns to be more regular.

My dp has insomnia / restless leg and nytol etc does nothing.
But no reason he can't do childcare onces he's up and allow you to nap

DH hasn't been to the doctors recently, we have recently moved and just got a new GP surgery.

I don't think it is insomnia I think it is selfish behaviour. I don't understand why he hasn't tried to change it. I am not entirely sure what he doesn't until 4, sometimes he is playing other times he is just doing some chores.

I will encourage the doctors to him, will see how that goes 🤦🏼‍♀️

Thanks everyone ❤️

My dh does this and it does make me mad it's not intentional to hurt me but when he sees that I am exhausted, upset or pissed off he is apologetic and does his best to help out and show me how sorry he is for it. The attitude would upset me more then the action.

I have insomnia. I sleep approx 11-1am, am awake until 5 then sleep 5-7am, so 4 hours a night. I have to get up at 7am as that’s when my DC get up, and DH leaves for work.
He’s selfish, that’s the long and short of it. A few days of getting up earlier and he would be able to go to sleep earlier. He just doesn’t want to.

That's not insomnia! It's just a really bad sleep pattern that he's using to get out of helping with childcare. No wonder he can't sleep at night if he's getting up past midday.