Stressed out.... 29weeks

[Mumof1littlemonster]

I'm 29weeks pregnant but I'm stressed out constantly because of my father. Not sure on where to put this thread.

Here goes....

My parents separated about 5yrs ago and do not have no contact with each other (he was a class A drug user and my mum gave up trying to help him) I've been looking after my father as he had a stroke after they split and I've got him back on his feet in terms of he's being able to look after himself/cook/clean/shop etc, although he now suffers with epilepsy and black outs.

In my first pregnancy he stressed me out quiet abit too with constant lies & getting up to no good (being conned, gambling)

Since then he's inherited a lump sum of money which when he was going to get, told me he wants to give me half, which he has done and more. The extra money he's given me is his and wanted me to look after it and he told me to stick it in a Isa which I have also done along with my own money.

So here comes the problem....
he's recently lost £3k (he claims on gambling) and wants me to now break the isa to give him his share of the money and do what he wants. A few days ago I took his laptop as it wasn't working properly and as I got it working last night I discovered he's paid someone on Facebook for a deposit of a car £150. Due to his medical condition the Neurologist has told him he's never allowed to drive as he's a danger on the road, he could suffer a black out etc. After him knowing this he is still going ahead buying a car, he's been conned on Facebook before when trying to buy a car etc.

What do I do? I literally can't take anymore he constantly stresses me out, he gets money from the government and he just blows it! Now he wants the remaining share of the money I have of his, do I just give it to him? Or say no he can't have it as he's going to waste it?

Or do I just give it to him and cut off and let him lead his life how he wants? No one keeps with him at all (not his family, not his other kids) it's only me.

Please help, sorry for such a long post x

I think you've done. your bit to be honest. More then enough if no one else bothers with him. I'm sorry but he sounds like he cannot be helped. It's time to be a bit selfish and think about yourself and look after yourself and you family. Don't feel bad for doing so.

As far as the car goes I'm not sure if you could somehow report him to the police? I know that sounds incredibly harsh but if he's at increased risk of hurting himself and others on the road I think it's justified.

So if I read it right you put his half and your half in the same account? If that's the case separate it immediately into an account for you and an account in his name. Give him the details for his own account and let him do as he pleases with his own money (it's his decision if he wants to blow it). You could give him the number for a gambling helpline.

Tell him if he buys and drives a car you will report him for the safety of everyone else.

He's an adult, you don't need this stress, and there's a good reason your parents separated.

Thank you for your replies

My main concern is him driving, he obviously doesn't care about his life but putting other lives in danger... really so selfish!

havetothink that's correct I put them both in 2 Isa accounts in my name. X