How did this happen?!

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Last year I fell pregnant on the pill, told the doctors 2 years prior that I thought the pill wasn't as effective as I started bleeding irregularly on it, this had never happened since being on the pill from 16 years old. Doctor told me I didn't need to change the pill til after 30 years old, I'm 28 now. Was 26 at the time of going to the doctor. Anyway I gave birth to my beautiful baby in April, my boyfriend originally didn't want the baby but since born he has come round, although we split up end of july because things arent working and I found out he'd been cheating on me.
At my 6 weeks check up my doctor prescribed me the mini pill, I explained how I fell pregnant on the pill before but she said that this pill is different anyway and because I was breastfeeding at the time this was the best option. I stopped breastfeeding about a week after that appt and started taking the pill around that time too.
My (ex) boyfriend was away at this point, the doctor told me I had to use a condom for the first 7 days of taking the new pill which was fine because he was away anyway so wouldn't have been having sex, he got back about 9 days after.
Last few weeks I have been extremely hungry, and my moods are all over the place, went back to the doctor and they said it could be the pill so they prescribed me the same one I was on before even though I fell pregnant on that, they said it was probably because I had a dodgy stomach while taking it last time (doctors words) anyway decided not to take it just yet and see if this current pill would settle.
Past few days I've been feeling sick, my mum made a joke about being pregnant but I laughed cos that's almost impossible... But I got paranoid and took one yesterday just to clam myself. No one can be that unlucky surely.... turns out I'm pregnant, line came up strong as anything. I'm a mess, how can this happen, I can't be a single mum to 2 babies under 1, I spoke to the ex but he doesn't want it, which is fine cos I don't really want to continue with the pregnancy either. I just never ever wanted to get an abortion in my life, I'm not against them at all but I just didn't want to have to go through it. And I feel like a terrible person, I feel so guilty.
But I'm barely coping alone with this baby because the ex is useless.
I can't stop crying and I hate that this has happened when I've tried to be careful to not let it happen. Why now? No problems since I was 16 and now 2 unplanned in one year.
I guess I just wanted reasuraance
It would not be fair on any one, including the unborn baby, for me to continue with the pregnancy and especially for my little girl.
I'm going to the doctors today to talk about termination, even though the idea of it fills me with unbelievable guilt, I know this is the right decision for all of us.
Has anyone been through this, did you feel better in the end?

Ive fallen pregnant twice whilst on the pill. Although my age gap was much bigger(11 years). You need to make the right decision for you and DD and as hard as it may be you will get through it, whatever you decide. Good luck

If the pill is taken properly and you fall pregnant then it doesn't work for you. Even is taken properly it isn't 100% effective.

Sorry to read about your situation

Yes I will be looking into different types of contraception after this.
I just don't want to be made to feel bad. I've heard stories of nurses and doctors making you feel terrible for choosing to end the pregnancy and I don't know if I can cope with that. I know I also shouldn't care what people think as long as I'm making the right decision for me and my DD, but it's hard.

When I took the mini pill the doctor failed to tell me that you don't take a 7 day break.
So for 7 days (at least) I was unprotected.
How I didn't get pregnant is beyond me.

I also had to take it to in the same two hour window every day. Another thing they failed to tell me was different from the combined pill.

I don't know if things are still the same because that was some time ago but I always wonder how many women got pregnant because they weren't informed by their GP that there was a biiiig difference in taking those pills.

Most doctors are completely professional and non judgemental so you shouldn’t worry about their response to you requesting a termination. It’s also completely understandable why anyone in your situation (single with a young baby) would want a termination. You shouldn’t feel guilty or as though you need to explain your decision to anyone. If it’s right for you then it’s the best choice for you to make. sorry this has happened.

I fell pregnant on the mini pill after I had my first - it was during the first month but after the initial 7 day period they say that it works. I wouldn't trust mini pill for at least a month.

I miscarried that baby but I'm pregnant with my second now (planned) and I'm having a section and not planning any more kids. Really worried about what contraception to use as having 2 sections is very risky to future pregnancies so I'd rather not have anymore anyway

I called the clinic and the lady on the phone seemed very nice. I hope they're all like that.
ThirdChildFourthPile my doctor told me that I didn't take a break but not that it needed to be taken at almost the same time everyday, but I don't really like taking medication of any kind, so if I get prescribed something new I Google it to find out as much information as possible. My alarm was set for 7:30am every morning and I took it pretty much to the minute. There was only one day where I took it a little later and that was because the baby woke up later, but that was only about an hour later.
That's why I'm so gutted because I did try to prevent this from happening but it failed me. When people used to say they fell pregnant on the pill I was always a bit dubious, I thought maybe they had missed a pill and chanced it but didn't want to admit it. A few of my friends came off the pill to have babies and they didn't fall pregnant for a good few months after.
Thanks for the support anyway! I just really didn't want to have to do this, my mum is very supportive but she is away at the moment so I have no one to talk to about it

DwangelaForever I don't be trusting any pill from now on... I won't be having sex for a while anyway as me and my partner split, but I would like to get something ready in my system for when the time comes that I want to start seeing other people. So i can be sure it's settled in my body and I can avoid this situation. What contraception where you thinking of? The lady on the phone suggested the coil but I've heard bad things about it x

If you do go ahead with the termination at you pre appointment they will discuss with you about contraception, as with the coil they can fit that at the same time as your procedure so covered straight away. I think you'll hear good and bad stories about every conception. I had the coil fitted for the 2nd time after I had to have a termination and that was 2 years ago. Never had a problem with it.

Sorry your going through this and the doctors and nurses will be very supportive.

I was just going to say what Mumof4under10 said. Speak to them at your appointment and see if you can have a coil fitted at the same time. If you go for the surgical termination (from around 8/9 weeks in my trust) you can have the coil inserted at the same time, and because they do it while you're under a general unaesthetic it's usually more securely/accurately inserted.

Big hugs, sounds like you've had some bad luck. Don't worry about anyone judging you. I had a termination earlier this year and everyone who looked after me was professional and compassionate. You need to do what's best for you and your family.

Regarding contraception, if you have a coil inserted you can always use condoms also to double up so hopefully you won't find yourself with another unplanned pregnancy.

Good luck.

OP I never got on with the pill I didn't get pregnant on it but it just never agreed with me. I got the Mirena coil and it was great I still had light periods but other than that it was far superior to the pill. I reccomended it to a friend last year and she had an initial settling down couple of months with some irregular bleeding but after it had settled she says it's great to.