Morning sickness with a toddler

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Any advice or tips? I'm struggling horribly

My daughter is 2 in December and she's quite a handful when she's having difficult moments.

I'm also almost 9 weeks pregnant. The sickness is no where near as bad as what it was with my first daughter but it's pretty bad all morning and then in the evenings. Along with really horrible dizzy feelings and feeling freezing cold all the time.

Her dad, my partner works 10am to 10pm 5 days a week so I'm on my own most of the time. I have also been recently made redundant, although I'm kind of glad I'm not working right now because I would be useless.

I just feel like I'm being a really shitty mum right now. I can't do anything, my house is looking a state because I feel dizzy half the time and need to stop what I'm doing. I'm usually really house proud but I just can't do it.
I can't play with my daughter as much as I did because I get dizzy and feel sick. She will quite happily sit and play on her own for a while though or will watch a bit of peppa pig while I have a rest.

I just feel at the end of every day like I've wasted the whole day by not being able to do much

When will I stop feeling so crap? I never had dizziness or cold feelings or feeling so poorly the first time round, I just had really bad sickness.

My mum won't help either because she says it's self inflicted sickness an I need to get over it.
I thought it would be easier second time round

Sorry you are struggling so much! Don’t feel guilty about the state of the house or playing with DD. She will understand. My DD was nearly three when I was having morning sickness and honestly she just got to watch a lot of TV! It’s temporary and hopefully you will start feeling better soon! Don’t beat yourself up over it, you do what you need to do to get by and she won’t remember it anyways!

Thank you, I just feel like I'm being lazy and wasting the days hopefully I'll feel a bit better after 12 weeks!

You’re definitely not being lazy, you’re PG and suffering sone pretty horribly symptoms.

Does drinking plenty of water help the dizziness? And have you tried ginger biscuits for the sickness?

If you’re worried about the state of the house, could you get a cleaner for a few weeks? Please ignore your DM too, sounds like she’s the one who’s missing out on seeing her DGD

Getting a cleaner not really an option after my redundancy.

I try do little bits of cleaning daily but nothing major like before. Everything piles up so quickly. Every thing gets grubby so fast.

I'm also not cooking food like I used to for my daughter and I've only been making her fast, easy frozen things or simple pasta with a mix in sauce. This is my main guilt. I used to cook fresh everyday but the past few weeks it's just crap. I can't eat much either and haven't put in any weight yet so I feel guilty for the unborn baby too.

My partner woke 2 hours early to help with the kitchen before work today and he bleached the bathroom floors as well but I feel bad because he's then working 12 hours All day.

what's making me feel the worst is the dizziness. All my blood results were fine so the midwife said just to take it easy and try not lift my heavy toddler as much, but even just standing up makes my head spin.

I'm currently lay in bed with my daughter watching old episodes of balamory before I try attempt to cook anything 😱

I'm just moaning now aren't I, and I shouldn't! We tried for a while for this baby and I really want to enjoy this time

I'm in the same boat. I went to the doctor and said I can't look after my toddler due to constant nausea and they prescribed Cyclizine and I feel 70% better.

MUch sympathy, morning sickness with a toddler is awful. Weeks 8-10 were worst for me and it did start to really ease off after 12 weeks so you’re getting there! Right now is just about survival mode, while it feels neverending it really is a short time. So don’t worry about the cleaning or cooking and let your daughter watch lots of tv. You’ll be back to normal soon 😀

DD really isn’t going to come to any harm eating like that OP and if it’s bothering you, just give her a vitamin tablet everyday

And you’re feeling guilty about lying in bed with her and watching tv? I bet she’s loving it! Did she look in the tiny bit upset by having Mummy cuddles in bed?

Try not to be so hard on yourself. Morning sickness is bad enough without giving yourself a hard time

I'm 17 weeks and my DD is 2 in November, so I was in your exact position several weeks ago! It's utterly miserable. We would lie in bed and read books a lot, or even bring DDs crayons into our bed with a notebook so we could do drawing. I would sleep when she would. Just make sure she's having some protein at every meal and a few veggies offered daily (mine loves chopped baby tomatoes and cucumber sticks) and she'll eat what she eats. Pasta with a mixed through Ella's veggie pouch and some cheese is a great dinner, with some yoghurt and fruit for after.
It's only for he next few weeks until you start feeling better. Do the bare minimum of housework and get DH to take over where needed. My DH was great with getting up with DD in the mornings and doing her breakfast so I could have some extra sleep, it really helped with the nausea.
There is also some over the counter stuff which made a big difference to my ability to function on the really bad days.

I didn't think of the Ella's veggie pouches to go with things that's a really good idea!
When did you start to feel better @smellsofelderberries?

I managed to take my daughter out this morning, the getting ready bit was hell but once we were out the fresh air helped. Back home now in bed having a nap and the sickness is back quite bad. Not so dizzy today though.

I was prescribed anti sickness tablets that melted in my mouth last pregnancy, I'll book an appointment on Wednesday (partners day off this week) and see if they have it on record and let me have them again.

Tell them you can't look after your child or work if you have to and you will get them.

Another good dinner option is to keep some packets of cold cooked meats - roast beef and chicken or whatever she likes. Throw on some frozen veggies and serve with the meat.

This is all temporary and will be so good for her to have a sibling to play with in future. So don't feel a bit guilty!