20 weeks ultrasound + gender

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Hi all,

I'm 25 weeks pregnant at the moment and I have a 32 months old boy. My partner already has 2 other boys from a previous marriage and his entire family is all boys. During the entire pregnancy, I always assume I'd have a boy due to this. I was completely sure. So I went to the 20 weeks scan and I wanted to make sure everything was right, so the sonographer was very nice explaning what she was measuring and the things she saw. My biggest concern was if there was anything wrong. During the scan, the sonographer asked me a couple of times if I wanted to know the gender and If I had found out before with my other one. I said that I was sure that it was going to be a boy because all kids in the family are boys so it was more confirmation. She insisted "Are you sure you want to know?" so I said, yes, of course. She said "we'll it's a girl". I asked her if she was sure. She said she was very sure and that it was very clear. Mind you I don't understand ultrasounds, she showed me the baby from the bottom, and there were like three strong lines. I remember with my first boy I could see his bits without the sonographer even confirming.

I mean when she told me it was a girl, in a way I got excited because I didn't expect it and it meant that it would be just different but also I was happy because it was the first time I saw my partners so so happy. He was thrilled. After the consultation, I had to go back next week because she couldn't measure one of the kidneys properly. So the following week I went back and it was a different sonographer. She seemed more in a hurry but still she was nice. We asked her to confirm what she saw. She said she saw it was a girl and didn't see any boy's bits at all.

I guess I stll can't believe it but then I googled and I found out many cases of women having the gender mistaken. I really want to know the gender as I'd like to get my head around and buy baby clothes. The other day I went to the nursery and one of the practioners told me that she was told that it was a girl and then it turned out to be a boy. So my question is, is it very common to have it mistaken? I know there are cases but is it that usual to get it wrong?

Now the 17/9 we have a 3d and hopefully I'll get confirmation. In a way, I'm happy with any gender but I guess I'll feel a bit guilty or bad if there was a mistake mainly cause I see my partner so excited.
I've already bought just some clothes but I think I'll put it away just in case if I need to sell it.

My mother in law loves boys and in fact, even when I was pregnant and she didn't know, she was telling me that she hoped it wasn't a girl. Now she is telling me that probably they got it wrong and it's a boy. I hate having to listen these things and it's so bad to just love-hate one gender over the other.

What are your experiences?

Thanks!

Cecilia

Hi! Congrats on your pregnancy.

My first was a girl and I found out at my 20w scan. The sonographer saw 3 clear lines too and showed me a picture of the potty shot where there were 3 clear lines indicating girl bits. He didn't seem to think there was any doubt but said hospital policy was to never give above 70% as a figure for certainty.

I'm now preg again and due in a few weeks. I had a scan at around 24 weeks this time and you could see the boy bits clear as day.

From the sound of yours, particularly as yours was later in pregnancy and you've had 2 scans I think it's definitely a girl. Girls are awesome!! Don't listen to any silly comments from others esp your MIL. Once baby is here everyone will love her! And how lucky to have lots of protective brothers

Girls IMO have much cuter outfits and accessories so I've been much slower in buying clothes for baby 2 i must admit! Don't get me wrong I'm excited to have a boy this time but eithet one brings their own joys. So enjoy your pregnancy, and once you get going, you'll love shopping for her!

Also, everyone knows someone who knows someone who claims their scan got it wrong. However this is the minority and very rare. It can happen but I'd allow myself to get excited over having a daughter in your position

Best wishes for the remainder of your pregnancy x

I've had 2 private scans and both have said girl. I could see the 3 lines really clearly and I think that a lot of the time for wrong guesses, the baby isn't in the right place. One place I went to offered a 99.99% accuracy and a free re-scan if they couldn't tell which makes me think they know exactly what they are looking for. The NHS are less focused on this as it's a medical scan but again, they have been right for everyone I know and if I were you, I would be thinking pink. Congratulations!

Thank you, girls. Your messages have given me some piece of mind. Yes, it seems that once I say it's a girl everybody around "ohh i know someone who knows somebody it was wrong" ha ha or people saying it quite usual.

Thank you for sharing your stories. ;)