Just found I'm pregnant!

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Hiya...

I have just found out I'm pregnant.

It was unexpected, and I'm really unsure what to feel/do.

I start university in two weeks, and I'm really not sure what to do!?

I discovered this website and just thought I'd come on and get other mothers/soon to be mothers perspectives/opinions and experiences.

Thank you lots x

Hi op. I suppose only you will know how you feel? Do you want children? Does the father want them? Xx

Hiya,

I'm really unsure on what to do or what to think at the moment..

The father does know, and wants to keep the baby.

But the way I am feeling, as I'm just about to start university I am really unsure on what to do..

Also, thanks a lot for your reply xx

I can't tell you what to do hun, it's yours and the fathers choice.

I'm sorry you're not sure what you want to do next. You have some time to think it over. All I will say is that you need to be sure whatever you do is really what you want, forever is a really long time to not be happy xxx

Hi op, as you've posted in the pregnancy section you'll get a lot of people who are currently or hope to be pregnant soon, which will definitely inform the replies you get.

Personally I would (did) put off motherhood until its a proactive choice for you. Get your degree, see a bit of the world. Those things are a hell of a lot harder with kids. Educational and career opportunities aside, children can be great, but there's a lot of drudgery and lifestyle changes that are easier to put up with if you've had some time to live just for yourself first.

I'm pretty sure if you talk to the uni you can defer your course if you need to, or go part-time so that you could study around caring for your child (if you choose to keep the baby).

Ultimately it is your decision, but there are options. Would it be at all possible for you to defer (take a year off) university? Some universities have crèches/childcare facilities on-site for when you return.

I'm due to start my second year of university in a few days, but am deferring due to pregnancy and returning in September 2019 when baby will be six months old. You should be entitled to more financial help with a baby (loans to pay for childcare etc), if finances are what concern you.

Again, it is ultimately your decision, but your situation isn't insurmountable. Many many students have completed their degrees with children (most of the people in my year at uni were parents). Good luck!

Thank you so much for the replies lovelies it is must appreciated!

Even though I am due to start my child nursing course on the 17th of this month, I have decided to continue on my pregnancy.

I know it will be difficult, but nothing is impossible in life I guess!

Many thanks for the responses xx

Congratulations. Wishing you all the best xxx

Your body your choice. Not boyfriends or parents but yours.

Personally. No. I wouldn't . I would want to go to university and get the best education I could. University is hard work and a lot of fun. Yes it's possible to do Uni and have a baby but it will be a much lesser experience. You won't be able to do the parties - clubs, going out . staying out. Year abroad . all the opportunities awaiting you.

Then yet a good job, make a secure home. Find a man and really get to know him. Know if he is the sort of person who will put you and any children first - forever. (maybe this one maybe you will grow apart.There is a lot of growing up to do between now and the end of Uni.)... Then think about a baby. Gove a child the best start you can. Now -personally , in your position - is definitely not the time. You world is just about to open up and get very exciting. I wouldn't be giving that up for a baby now.

Is bf going to Uni. If not is he hoping baby will keep you home ?

hiya!!!!

i am in a fairly similar situation - i am 10 weeks pregnant and start my second year of university in a couple of weeks. leaving uni or even deferring for a year really wasn’t an option for me because i am absolutely in LOVE with my course.

student finance will allow you UP TO (depending on household income like the rest of your loan) £1669 extra for having a child dependent on you, and up to £160 a week childcare grant if you are paying for childcare. you can also get child benefits which i believe is about £80 a month.

your uni should give you a mentor/tutor - talk to them asap about your pregnancy, tell them when it is due and what you expect to do at that time (eg how much time you would like to have off, whether this will affect deadlines etc).

i’m sure i don’t need to tell you that it’s not going to be easy, but don’t let people tell you that you’ll have no social life with a baby! sure, you won’t be able to go out every single night like some people do at university. but you’ll still be able to party, join societies, and enjoy yourself whilst completing your studies! good luck with uni! Xx

Good luck OP! A friend of mine got pregnant while at University and had the baby. Her life has worked out well. Obviously it was tough for her in many ways, but I don't think she regrets a moment of it. It sounds like you are happy with your decision and that is the most important thing, you will work the rest out. xx

@jellybeann hiya!! Thanks so much your comment has made me feel a lot better knowing another person is/was in a similar situation

How did you find your pregnancy throughout uni? Xx

Thank you so much for all the replies lovelies!

I really appreciate it xxx