Worried and can't stop crying

[MissMoodyMoo]

I'm 13 weeks and have had horrific sickness since the beginning of my pregnancy but am a nurse so I've always managed to get into work and when I'm really ill I spend a few minutes lying on the toilet floor then straight back out to work again I've only ever been sent home once due to constantly being sick😥 I've been back and forth to the EPU for anti sickness injections and I take 2 different anti sickness tablets regularly...anyway today is the first day I've phoned in sick and I'm gutted about it I feel like I've let everyone down but I'm just so exhausted and sick! The charge nurse says that pregnany isn't an illness but if really is making me ill 😓😓😓 it's a relatively new job and so worried they are going to think I'm at it or think I'm unpredictable 😭😭 i just cant stop thinking that I have left them short staffed on a busy ward and cant stop crying!!!! maybe it's my hormones 😢 i don't know how to calm down! Help!!

If you’re ill you’re ill. Yes, it’s unfortunate but it’s just one of those things. What can you do, turn up and vomit on the poor patients?

I really hope the charge nurse wasn’t implying pregnancy related illness didn’t count as a reason not to turn up to work.

I feel the same if I ever have to give in and have time off work. I also get what you're saying re feeling guilty,I've been tearful after calling in sick. I'm also pregnant (9+3) and had to go home early one day last week as I was really struggling, first time since I started that job 18 months ago.Hugs to you and hope the sickness starts to ease soon, you've done well not to take a day off so far with all you've gone through.

No pregnancy isn't an illness but it can make you feel very ill. I ended up have four weeks off from my work. I was no use to anyone and it was actual manager who suggested I get a sick note. I really don't think there is enough understanding of how ill it can make you. Even princess Kate technically was on the sick from her job. Try not to feel guilty no advice really just my sympathy

It's not illness technically but I've never felt more unwell than when I was pregnant! I had time off and I didn't feel guilty, there is nothing you can do about it and they can't penalise you for time off sick when you are pregnant. Don't feel bad, it will just be the hormones and you've done amazingly well not to be off sick until now!

Pregnancy itself isn't an illness no, but there are many things that can happen during pregnancy which make you very unwell.

You have done remarkably well going in as much as you have when you have been feeling like you have. On a day that it's worse and you can't manage you shouldn't feel bad, although I understand why you do.

Some women are so sick they are hospitalised. Granted that's not you on this occasion but what do those women do? Is that not an illness of sorts?

I had extreme nausea in my pregnancies at worst and was only sick once and I really struggled with that. To keep going every day must be relentless and I hope that you start feeling better soon.

Oh that makes me so angry!!! (Not you OP, the charge nurse).
Yes pregnancy is not an illness, but it can cause illness-how can you possibly care for patients properly when you feel that unwell?!
Take your day off (and more if you need it!). Relax, try to get some fluids into you and have a day for yourself.
You've not let anyone down-the charge nurse has let you down! Take care ❤️

It's not an illness but it is a medical condition, if you're ill you need time off.

As a senior nurse I can tell you that pregnancy related sickness is supported by the NHS and you cannot be penalised for it. Whilst I accept this may be a learning curve for the Charge Nurse I suggest you raise it with his line manager or HR so that he can be gently educated to support with developing his management skills (it's actually gender discrimination). I worked with a nurse who refused to go off with severe morning sickness and I actually felt she was putting us all at risk as I was supporting the work of both of us. It's better to go off sick when you're unwell than underperform. Hope you feel better. X

Pregnancy in itself is not an illness. However certain conditions caused by pregnancy (eg HG) most certainly are. If you’re too ill to work then you’re too ill to work, whatever the cause.